"Extinguishment relations" article described very accurately the relationship I had with this ENTp. We played this video game, and at one point got along, but then, there was this situation in front of 5 other people, where ENTp asked me for advice and I responded "No, figure out on your own. You are on the opposite team." Which really hurt him and he said "you are insolent" ...He then kept looking at me and back at his monitor, seeking reaction, obviously very irritated. I remained calm and didn't respond, even though that really disturbed me and I felt bad.
After that... we just didn't get along. He was afraid to initiate anything and I just remained passive.