Wait, in what situation? I can relate to that when working with them, in fact *for* them and in the same exact area of the job; yes, I worked for an ILI and this is the most proper term for his attitude towards me: pedantic. We were criticizing each other constantly though I was doing it indirectly for he was the boss. When I work with them on the same task just on different things, we don't care about how the other does his piece - because this was the issue in the previous case, "how" not "what" - and trust each other's expertise. Just the problem is they never make up their mind, it is so frustrating. They can't say "this is what I needed, thanks!" but want things over and over again, even things that they don't need. For example features in a rig, which require some effort from your part to implement, that they "might" use in the future though they ATM have no need for.
But definitely, as an interlocutor, they are great. We can talk for many hours wasting a lot of time but having many insights exploring whatnot. I'm not talking about an isolated case, but more ILIs I know and chat with IRL, one of them being just extreme, as it happens this guy is also into Socionics. I'm yet to meet an ILI that is not intelligent and has little knowledge of the many things. Indeed we argue a lot but we also agree a lot - though our agreements are rather "this is a good point" than "you are definitely right".
There is something dull about them, though... I don't know how to express this, but think of the difference between listening to your favorite music and reading some documentation that interests you. The latter is definitely interesting but strictly intellectual. I mean there's nothing about them to raise my passion, because in most of the people I'm into, there's some sort of enthusiasm (or craving?) I'v got that make me want to interact with them which I lack with ILIs, unless I got an idea that I want them necessaily to know (like solving one of the problems they raised, they do this a lot), though I kinda expect skepticism, finding some "flaw" in my solution - which is generally fun anyway.
All in all, with ILIs I spend a lot of value time that I never regret. Oh, when I depend on or need something from them, they tend to delay things too much, and I have to become insistent, calling them, pushing them from behind. For some reason they don't understand the urgency of someone's needs, like they're living in a timeless story which you can interrupt and resume whenever you want. And they have a total detachments of these imperative matters [1] as if it is not important whether they are in the end addressed or not. For example if you depend on them to pursue an opportunity, they seem not to understand that opportunities are temporary and need to be addressed as soon as possible. They IME share this trait with all Ip people. The train is departing, Joe, you either take it or you're left behind.
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[1] - I know that this "imperativeness" is subjective, but to me it exists, should Lao Tze twist in his grave!



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