I'm actually a 3 and am the same way. I really don't care to be praised; I've come to realized that I assume people are impressed with me, and actual direct feedback seems like unnecessary reassurance better directed at someone who doesn't already think so much of themselves. I never assume I have people's support, but I am usually good at rewarding myself for what I do well. It's a double edged sword though, people who know me start to really believe that I am fully this arrogant, and therefore don't need any kind of affirmation, which is the opposite of the truth.
Funny, we usually react most vehemently to qualities we subconsciously know are part of our own psyche. I have a similar reaction to people who behave in such a manner; I tend to feel like they are just unnecessary beings of negative energy who don't deserve to live.edit:
just read about unhealthy enneagram 3's... holy shit... they're the reason I quit the military. The entire god damn military is full of psychopathic narcissists who hate seeing other people happy. Yeah I'm telling you right now I'm not one of them. In fact they're the cause of all my life's problems.



