Quote Originally Posted by cherrysidecar View Post
Wow. That is *EXACTLY* the same as my situation. But when I tell him what I like, that kind of feels weird too because it's not my natural tendency...
I figured that you'd been having some issues in that area when you asked me, but I didn't want to pry. Telling someone what you like in bed can require breaking out of your comfort zone (especially for Victim, types, I'd think), but I don't think that's necessarily a negative thing. I've learned more about what I really like by figuring out what I feel is lacking and discussing it with my boyfriend. It also helps to focus on what you both enjoy during sex; I'm sure there's some common ground or you wouldn't still be together, right?