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I think being better -- that is, a person deciding she/he wants to be better, deciding what "better" means for her/him, and deciding to move in that direction -- is very personal and in many ways an individual process.
But having a dual friend or lover, or another trusted and close person, nearby (emotionally nearby) could help once a person has taken the first step of deciding to be better.
Psychologically close duals can help you discover who you are and accept that, and this is an important step in making meaningful improvements on who you are. If in the first place you realize that you are "okay" and worthy of love and appreciation, flaws and all, you're more likely to have success building on that when/if you set your sights on self-improvement.
But by the same token, you may decide that the things you would have focused on improving in the past aren't so important after all; with a dual by your side to help you (even unbeknownst to you both at times), you realize what's worth improving. That's because with a dual you discover that some of the things you don't like about yourself -- your self-perceived flaws and shortcomings that you've been ashamed of in the past -- are okay because not only are they not such big deals after all, but some other people (duals especially) will not only take up the slack in those areas but will do so without even minding; quite the contrary, actually -- they'll be happy to take care of those areas because it's easy for them and, having found you, they've found someone who appreciates them for just who they are too.
Disclaimer: Duality is not perfect. It is comfortable and has great potential as each partner can appreciate the other's strengths without harping on their weaknesses (once duality is established, that is; in the beginning this may not be the case). That mutual appreciation, imo, is what makes duality so special; to feel appreciated is to feel loved. This is what keeps each partner engaged in a meaningful way.
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