Quote Originally Posted by Slacker View Post
I don't see why duality would make people better people. It might make people happier in their relationship, and maybe from a place of happiness they will be able to do more good, but OTOH it wouldn't have to, and people who are in even horrible relationships can be good people. People in good relationships can be horrible people.
I think that duality creates an atmosphere of acceptance and understanding *from which* the individual can let down their defenses and feel safe enough so that they can improve areas of their life that need improving. This may look different to each individual.

For me, I had little confidence in myself because what I had to offer wasn't needed by those around me. And everyone seemed to expect different things from me than what I was naturally. When I met someone (actually I know more than one dual, they're each helpful) who needed me to be exactly who I am, it was like a gigantic sigh of bliss (and not in a romantic sense). It helped me to see myself for who I am, the dual became a mirror, in a way. Reflecting back the best of me and yet like a sponge, needing what I had to offer. For me, it wasn't the relationship itself that was end-all, be all, but rather the self confidence and different view of myself that was gained through knowing that person. Knowing a dual made me a better person because it made me more myself and brought out my strongest qualities.