Quote Originally Posted by Aquagraph View Post
Can you conceive a well-dualized unstable person? How?

I think you make the feces, not the lasagne you ate two days ago. Lasagne can prove some building material thus changing the texture, but what you create out of yourself ultimately originates within you.

We are merely genetic self-perpetuating machines which are programmed by interaction between the assumed environment and the programming (or the lack of) that is our mind. Many experiences have a high chance to change the programming in seemingly chaotic manner. This chaos and mystery gives space for the illusion of free will; we start declaring that it's what I did with my inner strength when I was virtuous and how I had a weak will when I indulged in a vice, never mind my history of programming for I am the master of my Self.
Definitely a well dualized person wouldn't be unstable. (I wonder whether duality helps in curing severe mental illnesses. Would be interesting to study that). But in case you don't find a dual in your life time, I don't think you are doomed to failure or instability either. I think there is always a natural balancing act between working on yourself and external help. I feel both are needed. Even in duality itself there is a balance between inspiring your dual's introspection and giving them external help. All in a psychologically and physically safe zone.