I didn't experience duality until my late 30s--I didn't grow up with a dual at home or even in my extended family. So when I finally started interacting with one, it was life changing. Not to say that they changed me! No, they didn't do anything. But rather I felt the calmness, the confidence, the strength from that relationship that allowed me to do things I never would have done before. So yes, making you a better person? Absolutely. But it's you doing that work. And if you've had a dual in your life from a young age, it might not mean much.

Also, I know an SLE/IEI couple who are divorced. She cheated. But they were both unhealthy and being together didn't seem to get them past this unhealthiness. Other things happened--he was in a car accident and lost his business, etc. The divorce itself was smooth. They went together before the judge, literally holding hands. And they still have an easy time of working things out with the kids. But they're both sort of unhealthy. So... what to say about this. Duality doesn't necessarily mean that suddenly you're going to be improved. You might be, depending on what you're used to, and what that experience does inside of you. You're the one who determines that.

If you're not used to it, and then you have it, and then you lose it, it does create an empty space. The psychological yin/yang. You crave it, a bit like sex I think.