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    Quote Originally Posted by Agee The Great View Post
    I understand Galen, but have you ever experienced this -need- to meet your dual again, overwhelming urge to be with them...even if you've never spent much time with them or even met them before? Im not talking about the certain occasions where you weren't that interested in your dual, im refering to an ideal situation where you are attracted to your dual. (Im not making much sense right now, im half asleep).
     
    I'll chime in and say that "overwhelming urge" is a bit much, but otherwise, yes. I have felt a very strong desire to talk with and be with a dual, who was attractive, even though I had not personally spoken with them, then (this was before I self-typed as I do now but helped get the process going). I also felt myself becoming a better person and a more authentic person in my attempts to cross the distance, so to speak. It was like finding myself just as it was finding the kind of person who I would want to be my "better half" so to speak without feeling any unease in the prospect of uniting with that sort of person.

    I experienced similar with platonic attractions towards ILIs (my best female friend and one of my best guy friends). We had an instantaneous draw to each other when we met and talked and it was pretty obvious we would seek each other out again. It also helped that we both had a lot in common, especially with my female friend who was a college mate. Even after she graduated classmates who were also classmates with us in the same classes commented how connected we were since we would talk about anything despite people being around (rather personally things, too). At least a girl I typed as ESI remarked as to how close the two of us were. I hadn't even paused to consider it because it felt so natural.

    It was easy to talk, really. I felt extremely calm and accepted with the guy and girl friend and just acted like myself. I felt stable, at ease, content, and so on in a way I don't normally feel. It was easy to drop my insecurities and express my strengths and still express deeper and more intellectual thoughts that I might feel self-conscious talking about with a lot of other people.

    I mean, some of the duality descriptions seem over the top idealistic and not all dual relations play out as well as it depends on the actual individuals, of course, but I think having people in your life, who you are close to, is important in promoting psychological ease and balance. I also think duality is easy to take for granted because it is as comfortable as it is, too. So the idea that duality is some magical feeling like falling in love is silly, but if you do fall in love and with someone dual to you, I think it could be closer to the exhilarating descriptions common to socionics duality.


    My take.
    Last edited by aixelsyd; 05-06-2012 at 09:07 AM.

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