Quote Originally Posted by Ashton View Post
There's a difference between noticing something vs. passing judgment about it. It often seems like you guys preload your observations with negative connotations, such that when you express the observation it ends up coming across as unnecessarily critical, dismissive, or belittling. This may not always be intentional, and it may be that the person isn't consciously mindful of doing this, but it invariably influences one's thoughts and perceptions IMO to go about labeling like this (and it certainly affects how other people feel, too).



I used to believe that about myself as well. But I don't think you have to know what you want to be straightforward; it can be straightforward to admit that you don't know what you want.
A lot of times, I'm just joking other times I'm jealous of a certain aspect of something if I'm unrelently poking fun at something that isn't a big deal, ie a dude I'm with calling someone hot, at first I'll say, yeah sure, she is (if I agree) but if they keep going on and on..I'll say something about her cellulite or fat ass something retarded just to not hear him go on anymore.

Yes ur right, it's better to just say you don't know..


@dolphin, lol every ESI I know is full of shit .. thats why I don't get along great with other ones IRL