
Originally Posted by
Ashton
There's a difference between noticing something vs. passing judgment about it. It often seems like you guys preload your observations with negative connotations, such that when you express the observation it ends up coming across as unnecessarily critical, dismissive, or belittling. This may not always be intentional, and it may be that the person isn't consciously mindful of doing this, but it invariably influences one's thoughts and perceptions IMO to go about labeling like this (and it certainly affects how other people feel, too).
I used to believe that about myself as well. But I don't think you have to know what you want to be straightforward; it can be straightforward to admit that you don't know what you want.