Most people tend to make notice of others quirks, appearance, life choices.
I think many ESIs are straight forward WHEN they know what they want, which like most people, they have to figure it out. Other than that they BS through life like everyone else.
There is no perfect compatibility with anyone-- and everyone knows at this point that duality isn't the end-all-be-all of relationships.
HEY NOW
DONT GO GETTING DEFENSIVE
But, for a certainty, back then,
We loved so many, yet hated so much,
We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...
Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
Whilst our laughter echoed,
Under cerulean skies...