I think duality is just one kind of relationship, and not necessarily the most optimal for everyone. There's no such thing as 'perfect compatibility'.
Hmm, so about my duals:
- Vague, cryptic to a point that I have to wonder if they're being deliberately enigmatic, rarely communicate outright what they actually mean.
- Frequently feigns obliviousness and/or aloofness, deceptively appearing more clueless or disinterested than they actually are.
- Won't communicate about how they actually feel until it blows up into a maudlin crisis that threatens to make both of us miserable.
- Inclined to be particularly self-involved with their own feeling states, difficulty getting out of themselves and being present for others.
- Secretive and difficult to trust; prone to lie to themselves and to others about their actual intentions.
- Difficulty being authentic to themselves and their experience; tend to re-rationalize their feelings post-facto into something more harmonious with what they'd like to believe is true, rather than how it actually was.
- Repressive and hypocritical; related to the above.
- Can be judgmental over trite aspects of other people or situations, such as someone's appearance, personality quirks, life choices, etc. I suspect that comments like these aren't always serious, but I find it annoying anyhow.
- Tendency to box themselves into a rigidly narrow life and worldview, one aided and abetted by personal insecurities and anxieties which they refuse to acknowledge with sincerity, and then have the nerve to wonder why they can't change.