Conflict Relations Marriages

[Roro]

Shit happens

Such as taking a model to evaluate whether or not a relationship will work before the relationship has even began, that sort of shit? If you didn't know about Socionics, I would assume most would think that a lot of relationships these days are those of "conflictors."

I think people end up married to their conflictors when they get married too soon, and/or jump into bed together too soon, as physical intimacy blurs personality incompatibilities,

Better known as todays youth?

[Suz]

Better known as todays youth?

sadly...

Though i dont think this is a new problem at all.. maybe just considered more "mainstream" and acceptable than before.

[Esaman]

Such as taking a model to evaluate whether or not a relationship will work before the relationship has even began, that sort of shit? If you didn't know about Socionics, I would assume most would think that a lot of relationships these days are those of "conflictors."

If you don't think that some types of people mesh better with certain other types of people and a lot worse with others, you are at the wrong corner of the interwebs.

I have a lot of experience with conflictor relationships in marriage in particular. My parents are. I can say with full certainty, that conflictor intertype relationships is an opposite of any healthy concept of partnership between married people.
Also, I am conflictor with one of them.

[Roro]

Also, I am conflictor with one of them.

Oh, damn son. That's some serious shit. Almost makes me want to cry you a river.

[woofwoofl]

Ending up married to a conflictor is the bigger mistakes you can make in your life.
You may like your relationships in insane difficulty mode (in which case you are a masochist). But your children will not appreciate the mode. There is also a lot higher chance that some children will be conflictors with their parent, and that is just tragic and unfair.

I know an Fe-EIE and Si-SLI marriage that's splitting finally after over two decades, and it was bad. Some awesome kids came of it though. And yes, the marriage was dogshit on the kids too...

I have a lot of experience with conflictor relationships in marriage in particular. My parents are. I can say with full certainty, that conflictor intertype relationships is an opposite of any healthy concept of partnership between married people.
Also, I am conflictor with one of them.

Shit

I've got my mom as Ti-LII, and my dad was probably Si-ESE. There were two of them, one of me, and I was a lot smaller, especially at the beginning. No one should ever have to be a kid. Thankfully, it never lasts.

Assuming "cry you a river" doesn't signify sarcasm, thanks. I am mostly over it. Distance from their relationship (or lack of it - eventual divorce) and from the conflictor, allowed me to naturally heal emotionally even without support to my Super-Id by other people. With unlimited access to information you can dualize yourself to a certain degree.
By the way, don't get the wrong idea. Both my parents are good people.

Same here

It was odd; there was nothing wrong with any of us, we just didn't totally mesh all the time. The problem is in being effectively stuck with someone... once again, being a kid is terrible, legally and physically counting as less than human...


Anyways, people need to be around each other because they like each other, not because they feel forced to, and definitely not because there's a legislative gun to their heads. Government needs to butt the fuck out of this, and stop giving people handouts for living a "traditional" lifestyle, effectively robbing anyone else who aspires to something greater, or at least more interesting.

These synthesized economical reasons for marriage are so much bullshit, and so is the conflation of immobility with stability, and thinking that either of the two are worth aspiring to enough to discard all else in life.

I sure as hell have no plans on getting married.

[Ver]

Anyways, people need to be around each other because they like each other, not because they feel forced to, and definitely not because there's a legislative gun to their heads. Government needs to butt the fuck out of this, and stop giving people handouts for living a "traditional" lifestyle, effectively robbing anyone else who aspires to something greater, or at least more interesting.

These synthesized economical reasons for marriage are so much bullshit, and so is the conflation of immobility with stability, and thinking that either of the two are worth aspiring to enough to discard all else in life.
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Couldn't agree more.

[Esaman]

I've got my mom as Ti-LII, and my dad was probably Si-ESE. There were two of them, one of me, and I was a lot smaller, especially at the beginning. No one should ever have to be a kid. Thankfully, it never lasts.

Woah, I can only imagine how much they reinforced each other in rubbing you the wrong way.

I sure as hell have no plans on getting married.

But don't let that unfortunate random situation to deter you from getting married altogether.

[Brilliand]

But don't let that unfortunate random situation to deter you from getting married altogether.

I think he was saying that he would avoid the legal status of "married", not the behavior that comes with the territory (such as sticking together and having kids). That would make the two parts of his post that you quoted not very related to each other.