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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I hope it's visible and clear how some here are strategic and some are tactical types. The strategics will try to have a goal, while the tactical will tell you to modify things as you experience life. This is quite a common way for conflict relations to attract one another and hold each other at interest and also another reason why activity relations start so easily too.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
So, are you advising that people marry other types or compatibilities?
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
yes! what happens naturally is your kind of weed out opposing quadra folks naturally since it's like oil and water. socionics mostly confirms things that have already happened.....it describes what ends up happening naturally anyway. since you could be happy with a non dual, why not try that and use socionics to work out any differences that you might have?
ILE
those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
What redbaron says is correct, socionics basically predicts this, some relationships, including relationships like activity and mirror requires a certain amount of distance, otherwise there will be conflict.
I just don't see the "magic" of duality in real life for me. I'm definitely attracted to LSEs, but meh, haven't found that many who aren't tools or who I can actually trust. I like what Slacker said about just having fun and going out with people regardless of their type.
I can't say that I disagree with you as I've had a similar experience with my duals. The magic really only comes into play once you're close enough, and that happened for me with just one dual, with whom i was forced to work with for long long shifts of really hard work. With the other dual i now know, it's been hard to GET close enough in the first place. I think that really is the big catch with duality.
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
I hear you. I have had a relationship with a dual before and I find it very hard to trust them, ESPECIALLY when they are left to their own devices for a period of time. It's hard to trust that they won't stuff up .... I mean it seems like they are oblivious to things that are obvious and important to me. I didn't like having to expel of this Ti on him, I didn't like becoming even more myself.
My ex dual makes attempts to indirectly get into contact with me and maybe I'm misreading his intentions but he is engaged (after only 6mnths with someone), why open that can of worms again for whatever reason he has. It's that kind of thing which made me realise we are so different. Dare I say I find it's easier to love identicals and I'm yet to find that same physical attraction to my identicals with my duals. Life is much more fun with activity partners over other relations. Living together could be a different story though!
Slacker, you said that duality is easy. That's a pretty strong statement, don't you think? Being a conscientious friend, I would help someone find a dual because of that very statement.
Why would I want, in my good conscience, to help someone find an uneasy relations, if I were a well meaning person?
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
It's quite relevant, I'm afraid and one which you won't own up to unfortunately.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Demonstrating Ti isn't uncommon for an SLI. If you had gone by Socionics, than that would only mean that you didn't know how to type or to recognize a person's pronounced function, as all functions are present in every single individual. And you, being a perceptual type, would make sense that you captured or emphasized the person's subconscious functions more so than conscious because you perceive (look at) mere happenings.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I wasn't noticing Ti or looking for anything because I didn't know about socionics. We just didn't gel the first few dates, and people here seem to think duals are immediately best friends. If they assume they aren't duals because things aren't going how they expected, they could overlook something good. Stop over-analyzing everything.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
I agree with you Slacker. First I was so immersed into socionics... I had to stop for 2 years (I banned myself from reading antyhing about that cause I knew it started being unhealthy). I also agree with you that it's just a theory with many many flaws some of which we are not aware of. The reality, however, confirms that socionics works. When it comes to feelings, I was for a few years with my INTj boyfriend even though I knew we were missmatched and reality confirmed that. I'm now with my SLI or LSE boyfriend and when I chose him I thought he was some other type but I just fell in love with him. You should fall in love with people, not with their types. You should trust your gut feeling, not the theory. The theory is here to confirm your feelings, not the other way round.
I think Socionics could be helpful to think about in dating if you're someone whose compatibility antennae are not working all that well, for whatever reasons. Ideally, it'd be not a way to eliminate people from your life, but to help ensure that you are paying attention--that you are not overlooking the possibility of getting closer to someone who might be good for you.
LSI: “I still can’t figure out Pinterest.”
Me: “It’s just, like, idea boards.”
LSI: “I don’t have ideas.”
For me socionics is very useful. I understand now why I get on with some people better and why with some I get on worse. It helps me not to get frustrated so much when I deal with some incompatible types. It also allows me to approach people ina way they should be approached .
Still, I don't believe in types, just in people. I can find people of each type whom I like or don't like. I think each function can be "good" or "bad". And I like good Se and good Ti as much as I don't like bad Fi and bad Ne.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
There's no really good way to "attract" a dual; the only way to have a dual is to be ready for one, to be ready for a relationship, even if that's a friendship of duality because if all you're doing is trying to be alone, than you're not really ready to have anyone in your life, even if that person is a really important person.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Come now, what are you gonna do to the poor fellow, string him up by his calfs with a rope...heehee!!!
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I think the way to attract a dual is to be natural, be yourself, and not overanalyze your behavior. Forget about Socionics and be natural and people who are naturally attracted to you will be.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
1. This happens all the time. No problem, non issue.
2. The only reason that matters
3. Marriage counseling is for people who aren't compatible.
4. That depends on who you ask/there is no "end all be all" for anything ever anywhere
5. sounds like an extreme waste of time/completely uninteresting/not my idea of fun
6. I see no problem here. freindships/relationships, its all the same. those who have this problem may not limit themselves. just because you love/like someone doesn't mean you are compatible and should date. nor does it mean you should not date them.
7. the views become more similar in mature people. those views shouldn't matter.
8. Common effect of being an idiot
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Lol.
IEE Ne Creative Type
Some and role lovin too. () I too...
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