Life is Short

[Galen]

Why not anything over Fi, in my honest opinion? But that's besides the point. Where did you pull the Ti and Fi from?

I think he's asking for substantiation of your self-typing.

Also welcome etc

[Yukiko]

I guess that means I should write some sort of self-intro, huh? Okay, here we go then.

Let's start with the basics. My goal in life is to be happy. That's my super-objective, what I want the most. Underneath that umbrella, basically I just try to do whatever I can to achieve the maximum amount of happiness.

Some introspection: I like reading and writing because it's enjoyable for me. Acting is fun. I'm okay at the science-y things, but I don't necessarily like them. However, I like knowing things. For me, physical knowledge is very important, because that separates people. Anyone can BS up some "critical analysis", but only those who have learned calculus know calculus. This is important. I want this to set me apart, because success is important, and it makes me happy.

I love being around those I trust and those with similar interests as me. For me, the happiest time is when I'm surrounded by people who I know, talking about things I love. I consider myself a decent judge of character, and depending on the "vibe" I get from people minutes upon meeting them, they are usually deemed as "trustable", "acquaintance", or "not worth the effort". Why do they get set into the group that they are in? I'm not quite sure. I try not to let on to the person which group they are in, but I will naturally gravitate towards those who I find worthy. These are the people I will naturally try to trust; however, my trust is not easily given. A single doubtable action is enough to color my perception towards them forever.

Trust is the highest regard I can give someone, and the maximum I hope to receive. Because peoples' emotions towards me and objects I am concentrating on always seem really obvious to me, any abnormalities in behavior in someone I don't trust completely will have me immediately suspicious. However, when I trust someone fully, I will always try to help them and make them happy. If someone I trust seems to be growing distant from me, or seems to have someone they prefer to my company, that can be very upsetting for me. I want to be needed. Superficial feelings are normal, but it always thrills and surprises me to know that I am truly loved.

Someone who I love who can tell me "thank you... I can tell that you care for me" is enough to bring me to my knees, because it somehow just seems so unexpected. A stranger who reads something I wrote and takes the time to say, "you're an amazing writer, probably one of the best on this site. Please, don't ever stop writing!" touches me for months afterwards.

When I'm with strangers or thrown into an unfamiliar situation, I often become introverted. The remedy for this is laughter. I naturally gravitate towards those who are cheerful and bright in a way that includes me. I like a group that is selective in the topics it discusses (nothing vulgar or vindictive) but not closed in a way that prohibits new members. If I am tense with someone, that usually means they haven't laughed yet. Anyone who laughs at my jokes becomes immediately more approachable. Not laughing at my jokes renders me immediately withdrawn.

I am okay at keeping up normal relations that are necessary but don't give me any pleasure. I can fake laugh and keep up pretenses, but it takes effort and isn't rewarding. I can also read if someone else is bored or not interested, even if they are fake-laughing. I hate it when people don't react to my jokes, and my biggest fear is being found as dislikeable or upsetting. What would hurt me the most is if someone I have always trusted suddenly insults me or stabs me in the back.

In addition to being insulted, my other fear is insulting others. I can't stand making someone else feel uncomfortable because I myself can't stand it. Even in video games, I don't like insulting the characters because they will react with backlash or anger.

My temper is usually under control, although I enjoy overreacting to things for the sake of fun. I will rarely show someone how I feel about them, but if it's a negative feeling, I will often rant to someone I trust. However, when do get angry, it usually becomes a very big deal, and I can harbor grudges or anger for very long periods of time. Although my anger may go away, it usually does not fade. Thus, even if I forgive someone, I can still summon my anger at them when I feel like it.

I dislike discussing emotions and am very bad at doing so. Talking about my innermost thoughts is unlike me, so writing something like this publically is also unlike me. I am also very paranoid and would much rather know information about someone than give away information about myself, although I am very chatty with people I trust and can go on for hours. I especially hate it when other people exchange information in front of me, but I don't understand what they are saying. People whispering at each other in front of me bothers me greatly, and I hate not knowing what people say about me, be it good or bad.

Hmm. Yeah. That's about it. If you were nice/crazy/bored enough to read that whole thing, congratulations! You now understand me better than 90% of the people I know. Unfortunately, you don't actually know how I look from the neck up, so it probably won't help much if you actually meet me. But if you have time, I would very much appreciate it if you want to help re-type me/re-enforce my existing type.

Also, someone definitely needs to respond because I would feel stupid for writing all that during my homework time if no one does _{not that I would have been doing homework during this time anyways but that's beside the point}

[MisterNi]

Hello and welcome Yukiko.

Enjoy your stay and don't become too obsessed with Socionics. It will ruin your life or make all of your wildest dreams come true. No lie.

[Yukiko]

Hello and welcome Yukiko.

Enjoy your stay and don't become too obsessed with Socionics. It will ruin your life or make all of your wildest dreams come true. No lie.

Hahahahaha-- too late. I'm already in over my head.

On the other hand, you're my look-a-like relation. I do love look-a-likes. I've spent lots of good time discussing things of non-interest with look-a-like relations. We shall become great friends.

[MisterNi]

Hahahahaha-- too late. I'm already in over my head.

It's ok, SLE are the most able to swim if given the choice of "sink or swim".

On the other hand, you're my look-a-like relation. I do love look-a-likes. I've spent lots of good time discussing things of non-interest with look-a-like relations. We shall become great friends.

I'm not going to be around as much anymore, but I'm sure you're right.

[Yukiko]

I'm not going to be around as much anymore, but I'm sure you're right.

D'aww, well, I guess we all need to wean ourselves off this site at some point in time. If I'm lucky, I'll be off too after I learn more about typing. I feel like I'm too dependent on finding out peoples' types before I befriend them now, but I had a bad experience with an EII and it's been on my mind. It would be nice if I were better at finding IEIs... where does all the go off to, anyways?

[Aquagraph]

Smells like Se-subtype. Likeable sort though.

[MisterNi]

D'aww, well, I guess we all need to wean ourselves off this site at some point in time. If I'm lucky, I'll be off too after I learn more about typing. I feel like I'm too dependent on finding out peoples' types before I befriend them now, but I had a bad experience with an EII and it's been on my mind. It would be nice if I were better at finding IEIs... where does all the go off to, anyways?

It's not a matter of being addicted, it's more a matter of priorities on how to spend one's time. I think you're relying on socionics to way too much and using it as a replacement for life experience. That's a good way to limit yourself severely as I get along fine with several conflictors and people from opposing quadras...often time better than people from neighboring quadras.

Just something to keep in mind as you dig deeper into the theory.

[Galen]

I love being around those I trust and those with similar interests as me. For me, the happiest time is when I'm surrounded by people who I know, talking about things I love. I consider myself a decent judge of character, and depending on the "vibe" I get from people minutes upon meeting them, they are usually deemed as "trustable", "acquaintance", or "not worth the effort". Why do they get set into the group that they are in? I'm not quite sure. I try not to let on to the person which group they are in, but I will naturally gravitate towards those who I find worthy. These are the people I will naturally try to trust; however, my trust is not easily given. A single doubtable action is enough to color my perception towards them forever.

Trust is the highest regard I can give someone, and the maximum I hope to receive. Because peoples' emotions towards me and objects I am concentrating on always seem really obvious to me, any abnormalities in behavior in someone I don't trust completely will have me immediately suspicious. However, when I trust someone fully, I will always try to help them and make them happy. If someone I trust seems to be growing distant from me, or seems to have someone they prefer to my company, that can be very upsetting for me. I want to be needed. Superficial feelings are normal, but it always thrills and surprises me to know that I am truly loved.

Someone who I love who can tell me "thank you... I can tell that you care for me" is enough to bring me to my knees, because it somehow just seems so unexpected. A stranger who reads something I wrote and takes the time to say, "you're an amazing writer, probably one of the best on this site. Please, don't ever stop writing!" touches me for months afterwards.

When I'm with strangers or thrown into an unfamiliar situation, I often become introverted. The remedy for this is laughter. I naturally gravitate towards those who are cheerful and bright in a way that includes me. I like a group that is selective in the topics it discusses (nothing vulgar or vindictive) but not closed in a way that prohibits new members. If I am tense with someone, that usually means they haven't laughed yet. Anyone who laughs at my jokes becomes immediately more approachable. Not laughing at my jokes renders me immediately withdrawn.

I am okay at keeping up normal relations that are necessary but don't give me any pleasure. I can fake laugh and keep up pretenses, but it takes effort and isn't rewarding. I can also read if someone else is bored or not interested, even if they are fake-laughing. I hate it when people don't react to my jokes, and my biggest fear is being found as dislikeable or upsetting. What would hurt me the most is if someone I have always trusted suddenly insults me or stabs me in the back.

Up until this point I found myself relating to what you're saying. Dunno how type-related that is though.

Hmm. Yeah. That's about it. If you were nice/crazy/bored enough to read that whole thing, congratulations! You now understand me better than 90% of the people I know. Unfortunately, you don't actually know how I look from the neck up, so it probably won't help much if you actually meet me. But if you have time, I would very much appreciate it if you want to help re-type me/re-enforce my existing type.

Well your name is Japanese and you self-type as ESTp, so I can only assume you look like this:

[Reuben]

(shhh we all know she's actually IEE...)

[InvisibleJim]

Welcome.

You won't like me.

[Reuben]

...says the master of reverse psychology.

[squark]

I guess that means I should write some sort of self-intro, huh? Okay, here we go then. . .[cut]

There's a shitton of Fi in this post. I venture ExFp.