Assuming you have, this can apply to a significant other, just a friend, etc.
Did you know about Socionics when you met them?
How long did the "Stages of Duality" take to progress?
Assuming you have, this can apply to a significant other, just a friend, etc.
Did you know about Socionics when you met them?
How long did the "Stages of Duality" take to progress?
I met my IEE female best friend when we were in gifted class in sixth grade. I've told this story before. I figured out that she was an ENFP many years ago when I first learned about the Myers-Briggs, so that was before I knew socionics.
Basically, she was weird in a lot of ways, and one weird thing about her was the way she laughed. She had this loud, dorky, barking-seal laugh, just like a stereotypical geek. So we were in class together and she started laughing about something, and I started laughing at the way she was laughing, and she started laughing because I was laughing, so we sat there laughing at each other while the rest of the class got quiet and stared at us like we were crazy. After that, we would pretty much start laughing about the same things, and we would say stuff to each other to make ourselves laugh more.
So I'm not sure how long the 'stages of duality' lasted. But I knew that this person was the most interesting person I had ever met in my entire life, and she somehow magically knew how to say exactly the right thing at the right time. The only bad thing about our relationship was the fact that she was born with cerebral palsy, and so she had bad physical coordination, and didn't like to do things outdoors. We would have had more fun together outdoors, but instead all we ever did was talk, which was sort of limiting for me, but even so it was the best friendship I ever had, and we were friends for eleven years.
She was somehow always interested in what I had to say, almost always, unless something really bad was going on in her own life. We always had things to say to each other and we would talk on the phone all day long if we weren't together. I can't even begin to think of having that much to say to anyone else. It was endless. I have no idea where it all came from. She would tell me these long and complicated stories, and I would start thinking of a thousand related tangents that I wanted to say, which were inspired by what she was saying, and I would painstakingly talk about each and every tangent until they were all completely done, except that while I was doing that, it would inspire her to talk about more tangents. I'd have to keep a piece of paper and write things down so I would remember that I wanted to tell her this or that, and sometimes, by the time I got to it, it would seem anticlimactic and unimportant but I would mention it anyway. But she would respond as though it wasn't anticlimactic and unimportant, and it would sometimes spawn a whole new thread of discussion.
We separated for a variety of reasons, mostly because I didn't like the person she was choosing as her husband, and she cut off contact with me, and also with all of her family, her sister, her grandmother, and other people she used to know, and refused to talk to any of them anymore.
But that was my first experience with duality and that was the reason why I was convinced that socionics was real, when I first learned about it.
I knew after that that I wanted to meet a guy who would be able to talk to me the same way. However, when you're not in school, it's much harder to meet a variety of types of people, and I've been extremely antisocial for other reasons. Anyway, it was a learning experience, and I recognized what types of relationships would be better or worse for me, based on my experience with her.
Yes, my duality experience was very similar. It's like you could be talking about absolutely nothing of consequence and your dual would be interested in it and have relevant things to add to the conversation.
Well, you should be looking for a dude IEE anyway.We separated for a variety of reasons, mostly because I didn't like the person she was choosing as her husband, and she cut off contact with me, and also with all of her family, her sister, her grandmother, and other people she used to know, and refused to talk to any of them anymore.
Yes! My first experience with duality was long before I even knew Socionics was a gleam in Augusta Aushura's eye.But that was my first experience with duality and that was the reason why I was convinced that socionics was real, when I first learned about it.
Well, IEE and intuitives like learning about MBTI, Socionics, the Enneagram, astrology, anything abstract and esoteric in general so hanging out at t16types or any other typology forums is a great way to meet IEE.I knew after that that I wanted to meet a guy who would be able to talk to me the same way. However, when you're not in school, it's much harder to meet a variety of types of people, and I've been extremely antisocial for other reasons. Anyway, it was a learning experience, and I recognized what types of relationships would be better or worse for me, based on my experience with her.![]()
IEE Ne Creative Type
Someand role lovin too. (
) I
too...
!!!!!!
We were in the same class in high-school and we naturally tended towards one another. Well, maybe not so much me because I was always rather distant in communication, but he would approach me and include me in things and I appreciated that. The LSE's best friend was another LSE and I made good friends with him also.
No.
Seriously, this is limerence, not duality.
disclaimer: i'm torn between istj and isfj so i'm going to assume i'm istj for this thread because i want to reply and i don't know any entjs atm.
i met my ni-enfj roommate during my "contemporary art practices for first yr students" class which is this bullshit class they have first yr art students take at my school. we met on the very first day of class, while walking as a group to the The_First_Church_of_Christ,_Scientist to walk through the stained glass globe. we were discussing how boring this was and so i gave her 3 bars of xanax and she gave me a pack of cigarettes. then our class took the subway to MIT to look at architecture and we got lost from the group, walked from cambridge to boston, went to a sex shop to help pick her out a vibrator, and then stole some hats, belts, and trinkets from urban outfitters. then we walked to her apartment and now we're best-friends and roommates a year later.
maybe a saint is just a dead prick with a good publicist
maybe tommorow's statues are insecure without their foes
go ask the frog what the scorpion knows
Female SEE #1: Sister
Female SEE #2: Friend
Back in highschool, I hit(ted?) on her during lunch break, after seeing her for the second time, out of chance. First time I saw her I couldn't take my eyes away. After that, I decided to get to know her, so I found a friend who knew her and through that person we started hanging out. Got up to the phone number, but it gets complicated and personal after that.
Female SEE #3: Classmate
I never noticed her at first, the previous year, but the next, we sat near each other and eventually started talking. After a few weeks/months we became good friends who looked out for each other.
There are probably others, but I'm not confident in the types. Oh and I didn't know about Socionics until after all these.
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# ESI friend: we lived in the same neighborhood. I started our friendship directly, I remember when we were 8 yo I said something like "I want to be friends with you", and we hung out for 10-12 years afterwards. It was a great relationship, the misunderstandings were friendly and joke-y in nature. Now we have drifted apart because he is really religious and rather unmotivated about life (because he's really rich), so we do different stuff. But when we get together, it's great.
# ESI girlfriend: we met at school, I hit on her and she agreed to go out with me. She was / is crazy, has BPD, so our relationship wasn't that good. Still, we really felt good when we hung out with each other, and she was kinda hot and really sexual.
# ESI current girlfriend: we met at university, we were both contributing to the uni's newspaper. I stole her from a previous ILI-semi-boyfriend of sorts. She is more sane than the previous ESI girlfriend and we have a great sexual and mental compatibility, so the relationship still stands after 4 years 1/4th. Now she is living in a different city a bit far away (1hr plane), but we have some plans for the future.
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
I've met a couple duals at school. Nice people. One was a friend, but seemed rather immature.
The first dual I met did singing with the little kids at my church. I always liked her.
I got a pen pal through a magazine and she turned out to be my dual.
I've met a couple immature duals at the library.
I've met a few more older ones at church.
I've met some duals here.
Curious about any?
Been around them all of my life and I've seen throughout my life that I'm the only one patient and prescient enough to handle them. I can stand their neurotic behaviors with no stress and we just get along; I like my talkative duals and I really like that they absorb my emotions in such a way to turn it into humor so I don't linger in my world of empathy. We both help each other live in the perfect reality we envision for ourselves, no matter what sex the other person is. I met my dual BF on a dating site while trying to help a friend date. I wasn't looking for anyone and he found me; he's very practical and said, "you were attractive and intelligent, that's why I decided to ask you out." He got a lot more than what he was asking for but he's realized that duality is a really good fit.
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I'm married to a dual and our 10-year anniversary is coming up. I first met her (Marjorie) on a date with a lot of other people, she was my friends date. I was on a blind date. We went on several outings together with her and my friend together and me with the other girl. As we contined to go out I could tell she was more interested in me than she was in him. I also had another friend who had been telling me about a girl in his english class that he was interested in. I eventually came to the realization that it was Marjorie. I told him I knew her and that we could go visit her. We went on a Sunday evening and it turned out that she and I did all the talking.
Eventually both my friends gave up and her and I moved in to take her. The rest is history.
i work with an SLE. he's got a position up higher than me. we don't talk to each other. i find him kinda scary. but i think he's hot, i LOVE his Se eyes because whenever we make eye contact, i always feel like he's undressing me....
he's new, so at first everyone went on and on about how he did this and that and compared him to the person who had his job before him but i was but i was like "ehhh he seems fine to me...."
i wasn't into him because i kind of half heartedly bought into the whole secret hate campaign against him lol this may be irrelevant but this is our first conversation: (you have to realize the tone of voices. the SLE has this thundering forceful voice and me, the IEI has this calm quiet voice)
IEI (me) - *waits impatiently while some talkative ExxJ woman practically chats up a storm, she leaves. i walk into his room.* HI. can i talk to you about something?
SLE - can't. i'm late for a meeting.
IEI - oh ok. *starts to walk away*
SLE - wait! wait!
IEI - *turns around*
SLE - what are you gonna talk to me about?
IEI - *blabbers really fast about something*
SLE - alright. awesome. come back in an hour.
IEI - ok. cool.
in the end. i never went back, i felt like i would be bothering him. so instead i ditched and left work early so i could sneak onto a rooftop and smoke weed with my ENTp misfit guy friendthe ENTp got kicked out of school for getting his fourth minor because he was caught drinking on a dry campus.
besides i think this is where the erotic role comes in, since IEI is known as the challenger and the SLE is known as the conquerer. so now if he wants to have that conversation he can come and find me cuz i don't feel like going to him a second time.
Last edited by rafaeli; 10-13-2011 at 02:21 AM.
rafaeli, that seems like infantile behaviour on your part
What makes you think he's SLE, and you're IEI?i LOVE his Se eyes because whenever we make eye contact, i always feel like he's undressing me....
Like mercutio says, that sounds more infantile than victim. Victims will goad, will poke, will negg just to get the attention of the SLE. Also, the SLE will usually initiate. Chances are, you're Alpha NT or delta NF.
If you're delta NF, then come to stickam. I'll undress you with my sexy spectacles.
She is wiseWhy I love LSEs:
beyond words
beautiful within
her soul
brighter than
the sun
lovelier than
love
dreams larger
than life
and does not
understand the
meaning of no.
Because everything
through her, and in her, is
"Yes, it will be done."
Originally Posted by Abbie
I met my SLI girlfriend because she was friends with my ESI girlfriend. Before we met, I was afraid of her and she thought I was too crazy and loud. In reality we found out we really got on well, we shared a room for a year and never ever had a quarell. It's funny because I'm not loud at all (she thought I was like my probably ESFj friend) and she is nothing to be afraid of.
Yes, exactly. Duality is supposed to be the most comfortable relationship from a psychological standpoint. Meaning your mannerisms, behavior and even some physical attributes are readily accepted and appreciated by your counterpart.
If you like a person enough it's pretty easy to toss away the intertype relations and just go for it. Putting on a different type mask could work but that would take a lot of effort.On the other hand, if you want to seduce an LIE, then socionics can also help you pretend to be an ESI, but that's a whole separate matter...![]()
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IEE Ne Creative Type
Someand role lovin too. (
) I
too...
!!!!!!
I met my husband at a party. He was drunk.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
Actually, I think we were both drunk. It's been a while and the details are fuzzy.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
Why, that condition came to my mind right away too. Good job, you sexually educated sophisticate, you. But keep in mind - that condition can be kick started at any time during a relationship, it is not just a temporary starting condition! Damn fine that it can be, too
If anything, that was a story of terrible failure lol. But it does show that confidence and drunkenness go a little further than you would expect.
Anyway, if I'm ILE I met my dual through friendly acquaintances. Unfortunately, he's same sex, so no super sexy romance story. Just vidya games, very engaging intellectual discussion/debate with cool mutually involving and beneficial life plans tossed in there (I would be inclined to call that the Ne of the conversation, haha), along with those ultra pleasurable happy nights.
if i am ESI then i haven't typed down any LIEs yet.I mean I probably have but they are peers so they look young ,prone to peer-pressure and well dorky, in general.I think i have met a couple of older LIEs and they seem pretty cool individuals.
Last edited by Kalinoche buenanoche; 10-13-2011 at 10:06 PM.
I spanked him, grabbed him and took him to my cave.
(Honestly, it was the other way around.)
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
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