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you can go to where your heart is
I've finally come to conclude that my dad, and all of his brothers and sisters, are sp/so. I don't know if this makes them the best perspective on what sx/sp + sp/so relationships are like (since they're all ESFj and 6w7 as well), but here it goes.
I've always found it difficult to establish a particularly stable connection with my dad, as well as pretty much anybody on his side of the family. It's only recently that I've come to verbalize why this is the case, and I figure it simply has to do with a mismatching of priorities. Rather, I barely understand his priorities at all. From what I can tell he's much more focused on maintaining stability and order of the house, to the extent that he intrudes upon other people's lifestyles. I'm sure this is more a product of his own neuroses and not indicative of all sp/sos, but he puts it upon himself as his own responsibility to make sure the house is in what he sees as "proper" order, and gets very frustrated when things aren't how he expects them to be.
What gets me on a deeper level though is that almost everything about him is business-related in some form or another. This partly stems from his concerns about money and assets and things, but it also seeps into how he deals with people, or who he even deals with in the first place. Aside from one or two friends he's had since grade school, everybody he brings over for dinner is some sort of work colleague. He doesn't seem to really "get it" when I talk about the people I meet in my career and my relationships with them; his first reaction tends to be "well can you do business with them," never anything about how we get along or how well we like/dislike each other. He doesn't seem to really get that there's more to connecting with people than simply furthering one's own career, and if he does then it sure as hell isn't at the forefront of his mind when considering relationships.
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