Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
Personally I have found that people who don't share primary stacks have overall different goals and motivations and have a hard time understanding and accepting each other on an (appropriately) instinctual level. I am actually pretty attracted to sp/sx people, they feel a lot like sx/sps and I have mistaken them as such, but IME there is too much "space" between the . People who are the exact same stackings are really easy to get along with and understand, but there isn't much room for growth and really learning from each other. On the other hand this could lead to "growing together" when they really hit up against shared weaknesses when working together, and see them similarly and see the need to correct them, but it's a bit like identical relations in Socionics where everything is understood and it just kind of sits at that. In the end it depends on the individuals, I think; ultimately there is no right or wrong, but simply relations of different characters.
Thanks Gilly. I absolutely agree. I too have felt far more connected to people of my own stacking, or at least my primary should be their secondary. But have found it really hard to connect with tertiary stacking. Even amongst identical relations, different stackings have thrown me off slightly on the level of energy each one is giving in the relationship etc. True, similar stackings do have that identical feel about them. When you say that similar stackings might like to grow together, how would this work with duality in your opinion? What would it be like then between duals of the same stacking? Duals by nature are meant to satisfy those weak spots. So does one really require stackings which cover our weak spots? Would duals with same stackings have this duality & identical flavor to it?