Quote Originally Posted by Kent Lorne View Post
I relate to this. I find sx in the last doesn't have the same attraction for me. There is some vague psychological and even emotional distance. This might sound strange but it's almost like I am looking at them and they are looking away... metaphorically. But with Sx first.... it feels right. We are looking at each other. Same stackings... I think it depends from people to people... but I do see what you mean that it might not be sustainable. It does feel good when someone brings another energy to the table. Covering that blind spot is as important as the intensity of connection.
@Gilly and Siuntal : But I do wonder about the instinctual stacking flow. According to the Instinctual Stacking article on this forum, if let's say you are a sx/sp... then an sp/so would have good compatibility. Maybe the fit here works well as the blind spots are covered and both people are offering something to satisfy these blind spots, being in the same flow. This included with the enneagram type and duality of socionics, might create a powerful resonance, merging, and wholeness. Though in this article it does also say that sx/so would be compatible with sx/sp etc. In the flow of: sp - sx - so - sp, the stackings are broken down into sp/sx, sx/so, so/sp... but if we have sx/so, what if we skip over the so and connect sx with sp in the same flow, isn't that in the same flow too? I am a bit confused with this: On one hand sx/so and sx/sp satisfy the connection and the blind spot. But then how does the instinctual flow also work? Maybe an sp/so needs the sexual energy and craves for it since it feels weak in it? Maybe the combination of sp/so energy satisfies at a deeper more subconscious level? I don't know. With duality and enneagram types in place... maybe it does fulfill something deep?
Personally I have found that people who don't share primary stacks have overall different goals and motivations and have a hard time understanding and accepting each other on an (appropriately) instinctual level. I am actually pretty attracted to sp/sx people, they feel a lot like sx/sps and I have mistaken them as such, but IME there is too much "space" between the . People who are the exact same stackings are really easy to get along with and understand, but there isn't much room for growth and really learning from each other. On the other hand this could lead to "growing together" when they really hit up against shared weaknesses when working together, and see them similarly and see the need to correct them, but it's a bit like identical relations in Socionics where everything is understood and it just kind of sits at that. In the end it depends on the individuals, I think; ultimately there is no right or wrong, but simply relations of different characters.