I've only recently come to believe something similar. It's a very deceptive underlying problem that often times neither person can really deal with properly. In my experience with sp/sxs, there's this intensity of energy that I see in them and want for them to bring out, but they only do so rarely. Whenever I try to bring that intensity to the forefront the sp/sx feels threatened by my advances and retreats further. It's like I have a tremendously strong intuition that the possibility for them to whip out their intense interaction is there. So I just keep going after them, hoping that I'll eventually break through, but they never do. Conversely, I imagine that sp/sxs see in me a containment that they want to achieve, but since that's not my primary way of being it's uncomfortable for me to stay in that position for very long. This eventually causes both sides to end up in a neverending battle of mutual correction, where the priorities are never agreed upon and homeostasis is never achieved. It's not an obvious problem either, like it's not an issue that immediately presents itself upon primary interaction. This pair seems to work fine in slightly distant friendships, but not so much in more intimate settings?
I know almost no so/sps so I can't say for sure, but theoretically this doesn't sound half bad. I sort of see a meeting of these opposites as two ships passing in the night; neither of them really knows that the other is there until they accidentally collide, apologize, and move on. I imagine that immediate interaction would be so stilted and unnatural between these two that they would never stick around long enough for real issues to develop.
I agree with this too. I've known a few sx/sos and while we generally hit it off initially there's some sort of discrepancy between our overall energy patterns. It's much more of a slight coloration than anything outstanding, but it's enough to either make me think twice or just get burned out.
I'm not sure of how many sp/sos and so/sxs I know of either. But from what I imagine, I would think that there's enough of a noticeable difference between how the two of us operate that I can simply accept that they're different from me and leave it at that. I could not agree with you more about identical stackings being the best pair.
Just because I've been wondering for a bit, what's your enneagram self-typing?



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