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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly View Post
    Hmm, in my experience my life "direction" and priorities tend to be pretty similar to sx/sps, I never really feel spiritual or ideological dissonance with them. They have a grounding feel to them, without being restrictive. There is an element of me melting their "cold hearts" and them sort of intrinsically feeding my desire to get my shit together.

    sx/sos are always the most attractive initially, but I feel like it's not as, umm...sustainable.

    so/sx is a whole different story...I like some of them but they tend to seem a bit...i don't know, kind of superficially vacuous; not that they really are dumb or shallow, its just kind of the vibe I get. sp/sx are just frustrating for me.

    Any sx last just feels totally distant and boring. I can relate to sp/sos superficially but so/sps are just kind of total aliens to me, they are the least interesting and most...spite-inducing.
    I relate to this. I find sx in the last doesn't have the same attraction for me. There is some vague psychological and even emotional distance. This might sound strange but it's almost like I am looking at them and they are looking away... metaphorically. But with Sx first.... it feels right. We are looking at each other. Same stackings... I think it depends from people to people... but I do see what you mean that it might not be sustainable. It does feel good when someone brings another energy to the table. Covering that blind spot is as important as the intensity of connection.
    @Gilly and Siuntal : But I do wonder about the instinctual stacking flow. According to the Instinctual Stacking article on this forum, if let's say you are a sx/sp... then an sp/so would have good compatibility. Maybe the fit here works well as the blind spots are covered and both people are offering something to satisfy these blind spots, being in the same flow. This included with the enneagram type and duality of socionics, might create a powerful resonance, merging, and wholeness. Though in this article it does also say that sx/so would be compatible with sx/sp etc. In the flow of: sp - sx - so - sp, the stackings are broken down into sp/sx, sx/so, so/sp... but if we have sx/so, what if we skip over the so and connect sx with sp in the same flow, isn't that in the same flow too? I am a bit confused with this: On one hand sx/so and sx/sp satisfy the connection and the blind spot. But then how does the instinctual flow also work? Maybe an sp/so needs the sexual energy and craves for it since it feels weak in it? Maybe the combination of sp/so energy satisfies at a deeper more subconscious level? I don't know. With duality and enneagram types in place... maybe it does fulfill something deep?
    Last edited by Kent Lorne; 04-01-2012 at 11:56 AM.

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