Jetson, I take issue with your tone here. Until you've been married and know people who have been married for 15, 20, 30 years, I would suggest you hold tight to your ideals and keep your judgmental attitude to yourself. Look, my friends were "willing". They wanted to make it work. How much of their life energy ought they to give to make their marriage work? Should they quit their jobs and devote every waking moment to doing whatever in takes, even if that includes making their partner happy by giving up all their own hobbies, friends, things that they enjoy about life? Is that what you think? If so, fine and good. Good for you. Live your life but stop with the tone that comes across as if my friends are somehow not committed enough.