Quote Originally Posted by jetson View Post
Yea, I've gone over this earlier in the thread. "Successful" is def subject to interpretation and based on what two people together consider to be "successful". Some people are happy to be unhappy, so they consider that successful as well. IDK, I think it's really a judgment I can't make to say how much compromise will make someone miserable based on how different two people are. I simply think for the most part, any two people can make it work if they work hard and care to. There are always more options to consider.

I think people tend to project what they believe to be the answers onto other people's relationships. Not everyone cares to be healthy or happy, and no, none of us have other people's answers, which is basically what is happening here, is certain people are trying to place their own answers onto other people's situations. "No, it can't work because they are too different." It's a pessimistic pov, whereas, I have a more optimistic pov, prob because I've seen stranger things happen lol...... I think it CAN work because I've seen examples of it working.

If "working" or "successful" can mean anything you want them too, then your argument is meaningless. It's like saying "Everyone will like potatoes if they just try hard enough. . . of course what a person calls a "potato" is different in every case, and could be anything." What's the point of saying anything at all, if what you say means nothing?