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    Quote Originally Posted by Galen View Post
    Again your skewing my words. I'm not saying that religion is my biggest priority, I was using that as a hypothetical example of one case where compromise may or may not be worth the end result.


    You said it yourself, everybody will have different priorities for what about themselves or their goals can be compromised for a relationship. You can't possibly say "no one has to change religions for a relationship to work" given the billions of humans on earth, each with highly varying degrees of religious adherence and fanaticism from none at all to stark raving mad. It's not even fair to say it's possible in some cases, because in many instances the necessary compromises will override whatever desires the people have in terms of life goals, personal interests, and desires in relationships. It's about as possible for me to make a three-way lovefest between Rick Santorum and Fred Phelps as it is for me to be an 15-foot gorilla in a cage at the Oakland Zoo. Something merely being possible does not make it practical or reasonable to do, nor does it in any way mean the thing will happen consistently.


    Beg your pardon? You've been harping about the necessity of compromise in relationships this entire time.


    Again with the naivete. Of course people choose easier options, because the harder options require far more work and compromise than both parties are willing to put up.


    How old are you again? How many serious relationships have you been in?
    The point is that any two people can make a relationship work if they want to, they are dedicated to doing so, and they are willing to work hard. I can have a successful relationship with Charles Manson if he is willing and able to work at it, and I am willing to do the same. There's always that possibility. That's the point.

    GSTAR - Given sufficient time and resources.

    There are ways for people to come together, decent solutions that do not entail giving up one's religion or political beliefs. No one has to give up their religion to accept another, but they may have to give up hate and close-mindedness, or not, depending. They may have to change the way they think and feel about another in order to come together, and yes, this does involve some change, growth, and compromise. I've made friends with people recently that I never would've accepted before, so yea, people can change and grow and become more accepting and open-minded.
    Last edited by jet city woman; 03-28-2012 at 01:00 AM.

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