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Something other than it would be too much?
I don't understand. So, there was no real reason at all? "Too much effort?"
No. More that the extra effort required would be worth it. The lack of quality would be too much to bear.


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Give him relational advice, ethical programs, you know, your Fi stuff. If he reacts like the other Tes, there you go. If he is more assertive about his own ethical program, there you go.
Ok, I'll try it when I next have the chance.


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How about this, if you're up for it - compare and contrast him to Cracka?
No.


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Related - why do you think he's attracted to you? Either in general, or socionically? What do you 'provide' him that he'd like?
Um, well, I'm a friendly, feminine woman with a nice figure. I'd guess physical attraction is a relatively significant part. He hasn't really (directly) said what he likes about me, though, apart from one comment on my hair. He does feel that we agree on a lot of things; I'm wondering if that will change at all as we all get to know each other better on this trip.

I think also I'm probably a challenge.


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FWIW I have a feeling if he were a pure intratim, things wouldn't flow in the way you describe.
How do you think they'd flow?


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I don't have a point.
I see your nature as being somewhat of a dampener towards more earthy forms of behavior.
I asked those questions to try to understand what you saw your level as impact on him/them are.
I haven't ever directly asked them to do that. Or consciously indirectly, either.

OTOH, over a year ago, when we first interacted, he told me he was "holding himself back a lot, more than usual." This a little while after he tried dancing to close to me and I pushed him away. (I probably would have been nicer about it except that same evening I and a friend had been dealing with a creeper...) I remember thinking that was an odd thing to say and wondering what not holding back would look like, how he behaves just normally...

Anyway, I guess that's one time when I "dampened more earthy forms of behavior." He still refers to it occasionally, though he exaggerates my reaction; it seems it wounded him a little (mostly pride, I think).


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I don't rely on the good graces of a bunch of people I don't know to provide me with repair equipment or medical emergency supplies. I'm used to things not going to plan, and people not being as generous as they could be. I mentioned my take on the dishes.

This is why I asked about his level of familiarity ; if he's confident about what to expect, then that may be a factor on his reasoning, and that's something I might feel, but only if I felt confident with the area. If he's not familiar with the area, and is expecting to rely more on people's good graces or social pleasantness to get by, that may indicate something. Or not.

It could just be, also, that he's a guy. Sometimes guys think things will just work out fine like that. Sometimes they don't.

This is juxtaposed to what you said about his more uptight attitude than your own in regard to other people's cultures --- maybe that's actually a point towards ESE, or, someone who has ethics as a dominant function. Not sure.
Yeah, I believe he feels he is familiar with what's going to happen on the trip and what we'll find/do.


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Of course, you should post a picture and a video of him.
In my other type thread I posted pictures of the two people in question because they had already publicly published those pictures on their own websites. I'm not sure I feel comfortable doing the same to someone who has not publicly published his photo, not in this public forum. I guess if individuals on here wanted to see his photo I might consider it through PM...


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PS: you say you don't see the EJ energy associated with other EJs? What in your mind makes him seem like an intratim ?
Less energy when interacting with others. Ejs sometimes seem to me like springs wound up, with an underlying tension or inclination toward action.