How do you know / what makes you say they were gangsters?
...Ok. Why? Do you relate to this person?
These all seem like classic Si valuing types of things, and given the rest of his nature, EJ temperament seems quite persistent with everything else you've said.- Clear but gentle in expressing interest toward people he's attracted to; persistent but doesn't just barrel through boundaries. Comfort of the other person seems paramount.
- Cognizant of how other people are feeling, particularly physically
- Knows how to make people feel better, or feel different (good) things. This can be directly physical, but also indirectly. For example, he figured out that people crowding me makes me uncomfortable (sensory overload, though I'm not sure if he's figured that part out - I'm not sure that occurs to him...). So when there's a crowd he's started "making me a bubble" using his own body as a shield, plus sort of using body cues to move me out of someone's way or into a more open spot.
- Appears to naturally think that physically feeling better will lead to emotionally feeling better.
Oh yes, I missed this:
So you've observed this? What makes you say such?- Clear but gentle in expressing interest toward people he's attracted to; persistent but doesn't just barrel through boundaries. Comfort of the other person seems paramount.
He's expressed interested in you?
This all seems blatantly caregiver, don't you think?
Unless you're going to have a lot of water and resources to wash dishes, it seems impractical. What is his reasoning for using those items?Um, ESE is more openly friendly, a little more enthusiastic, more emotional. Her humor is not as dry. She's not as likely to try new things on her own. She's not as much of a "partier" as he is. She talks a slight bit more, maybe. She also seems to jump to judgments a little quicker; however, she's also a little quicker to take them back once she's made one, like if I contradict her in it.
She's less keen on having nice things, though that may be a product of her upbringing. For example, he was insistent that on our road trip we get real glasses for the wine, none of this plastic or paper stuff. In fact, he wants to use real plates and utensils for everything. She and I aren't convinced that's the most practical thing, but whatever, we'll humor him.
Even his way of perceiving what is luxury and what is necessary seems particularly Si related, with the ESE and her having (obviously) somewhat, if only slightly, different takes on what 'comfort is'. To use some of the terminology from DarkAngelFireWolf69's profiles, they are both comfortable with implementing "Si related programs", or being responsible in maintaining one. This seems fine with Si creative..
What's more, he seems to have no problems treating you like an infantile and being accommodating towards you in terms of seeing you as someone who values Si and 'comfort', rather than being provoked into things. Don't you think?
Right, so, is there anything you can think of as to why he is not LSE, especially juxtaposed to the ESE and your EIIness?She doesn't try to instruct me as much as he does; in fact, she claims she likes having people tell her what to do. She's a little kinder toward people, gives them the benefit of the doubt a bit more. She seems more likely to try to help people out. She's perhaps a little more likely to aim toward my emotions when cheering me as opposed to the more indirect approach of fixing the problem. She also is more likely to tell me to "deal with it" than he, but that could be a matter of familiarity.
Hmm, what else... I think I'll be able to make more and better comparisons during/after the trip.
Well, can you blame them? Do you appreciate this restraint on their part? Do you think you've given them substantial reasoning for that behavior?I get the feeling that both of them hold back a little on their more "carnal" sides for my sake, I think for fear I'll get offended or otherwise not like it.
Do I relate to the person? Somewhat. He has a different take on practicality than I do, it seems. I've worked with ESEs in a similar manner before; they are good at being productive when there are clear directives. In my experiences of me + ESE + delta intratim, similar things have played out. He seems like an extratim rational type who fits his role in a general manner.



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