A friend invited me to a barbecue. I went. So did they.
No. They spoke perfect English.
No. Not the border, either.
Ok. Why? Do you relate to this person?
ESE knows me better, but that's NTR. She also agrees with me in terms of religion/spirituality - but, again, NTR.
Um, ESE is more openly friendly, a little more enthusiastic, more emotional. Her humor is not as dry. She's not as likely to try new things on her own. She's not as much of a "partier" as he is. She talks a slight bit more, maybe. She also seems to jump to judgments a little quicker; however, she's also a little quicker to take them back once she's made one, like if I contradict her in it.
She's less keen on having nice things, though that may be a product of her upbringing. For example, he was insistent that on our road trip we get real glasses for the wine, none of this plastic or paper stuff. In fact, he wants to use real plates and utensils for everything. She and I aren't convinced that's the most practical thing, but whatever, we'll humor him.
She doesn't try to instruct me as much as he does; in fact, she claims she likes having people tell her what to do. She's a little kinder toward people, gives them the benefit of the doubt a bit more. She seems more likely to try to help people out. She's perhaps a little more likely to aim toward my emotions when cheering me as opposed to the more indirect approach of fixing the problem. She also is more likely to tell me to "deal with it" than he, but that could be a matter of familiarity.
Hmm, what else... I think I'll be able to make more and better comparisons during/after the trip.
I get the feeling that both of them hold back a little on their more "carnal" sides for my sake, I think for fear I'll get offended or otherwise not like it.



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