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    Quote Originally Posted by Minde View Post
    Bumping an old thread 'cause I got new data.
    Okay, I'm going to run through it as previous poster.

    - Considers himself a shy person, particularly with women. When I asked why he wasn't afraid to talk to me he said, "I already know you." He says he's worked to overcome the shyness. He does seem to be relatively quiet, not a show off, particularly with people he doesn't know.
    I do not have great problems with this at all but when it comes to deeper stuff, stuff that makes it worthwhile I found that most females do not fit the bill. Not that I was or am on an active journey, a desperate journey.

    - One time at a social/professional after-hours event, he talked for a couple of minutes with a man he only slightly knew, and when he finished he said to me, "There, I've done my good deed of the day. He was polite; I was polite." ... Apparently small-talk with people he doesn't know or like is a tedious trial.
    I think I would phrase it this way.

    Meow: You doing great?
    Cluck: Ye, I'm doing this and that.
    Meow: Cool.
    Cluck: Ye, it is.

    I don't think I have ever got into a convo about my life with anyone I do not know nor place a drop of trust into.

    - Clear but gentle in expressing interest toward people he's attracted to; persistent but doesn't just barrel through boundaries. Comfort of the other person seems paramount.
    Hmm.

    - Cognizant of how other people are feeling, particularly physically
    I do not know how others feel (physically) unless they tell me.

    - Knows how to make people feel better, or feel different (good) things. This can be directly physical, but also indirectly. For example, he figured out that people crowding me makes me uncomfortable (sensory overload, though I'm not sure if he's figured that part out - I'm not sure that occurs to him...). So when there's a crowd he's started "making me a bubble" using his own body as a shield, plus sort of using body cues to move me out of someone's way or into a more open spot.
    A friend of mine just walked behind me just to get to the front of the stage during a concert. People were bouncing off me anyway. Does that count?

    - Appears to naturally think that physically feeling better will lead to emotionally feeling better.
    Never thought about that but as long one stays in shape, not counting relationships burned, it can work.

    - Is a good chef, but hasn't ever used a recipe; cooks "by ear" (or by taste? dunno what to call it).
    Never cooked anything.

    - Likes dancing
    Not really.

    - Recognizes male-female roles and doesn't seem to have a problem with it, although he's always been respectful of both genders as a whole as far as I can tell. I've never felt less than an equal with him.
    You mean wearing a skirt by a man is part of gender roles?

    - Is attracted to femininity - long hair, for example.
    I take it men who wear long hair or wigs are feminine. Haha.


    - Apparently our local Saturday market was too "alternative" for him... Sure, there's usually a bunch of normal to weird-quirky people running around, but in my opinion it's pretty tame. It's mostly just cute stuff, like kilted unicyclists playing accordions every so often, at worst. Also, at one point we walked by a place that seemed to attract gothy hipsterish-looking people, and that was "very alternative." He's from Europe (and my impression is that Europeans tend to be more open about a lot of behavior), but it still was too weird for him I guess. I can't help but wonder if me, a sheltered prudish American, is more open to different people than him, a sophisticated experienced European.
    Set him on fire.

    - Does not drink to get drunk but to "enjoy it." He hasn't been really drunk in a long time, and I get the impression he doesn't want to. He doesn't like smoking at all, or being around smokers, though he's usually externally polite about it and only privately will make faces over it. He told me about the only time he actually didn't mind smoke was in Cuba, where some men had a certain type that he actually enjoyed because it smelled good to him.
    I would kill him and set him on fire myself.

    - I totally trust him with regard to choosing drinks for me. I'm not a drinker, either, and he has a skill with selecting a drink that fits both the occasion and whatever I happen to be needing at the time.
    No matter what occasion it is vodka and beer for me.

    - Is essentially a secular humanist, but has openness to "spirituality." It seems he associates spirituality with certain feelings; he doesn't seem adept at understanding or conversing in these things, but he says he's trying to be open, especially recently.
    What is that?

    - Laughs at people a bit behind their backs, or comments on them. Usually not too cruelly, but more than I do, for sure.
    No fucking way, I mean I would just say it straight as long the situations would require it. I do not go on one is this or that behind one's back, I mean, it is visible but to comment on it, again, behind one's back is not really how I roll.
    Last edited by Absurd; 07-25-2012 at 09:20 PM.

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