Okay, I'm going to run through it as previous poster.
I do not have great problems with this at all but when it comes to deeper stuff, stuff that makes it worthwhile I found that most females do not fit the bill. Not that I was or am on an active journey, a desperate journey.- Considers himself a shy person, particularly with women. When I asked why he wasn't afraid to talk to me he said, "I already know you." He says he's worked to overcome the shyness. He does seem to be relatively quiet, not a show off, particularly with people he doesn't know.
I think I would phrase it this way.- One time at a social/professional after-hours event, he talked for a couple of minutes with a man he only slightly knew, and when he finished he said to me, "There, I've done my good deed of the day. He was polite; I was polite." ... Apparently small-talk with people he doesn't know or like is a tedious trial.
Meow: You doing great?
Cluck: Ye, I'm doing this and that.
Meow: Cool.
Cluck: Ye, it is.
I don't think I have ever got into a convo about my life with anyone I do not know nor place a drop of trust into.
Hmm.- Clear but gentle in expressing interest toward people he's attracted to; persistent but doesn't just barrel through boundaries. Comfort of the other person seems paramount.
I do not know how others feel (physically) unless they tell me.- Cognizant of how other people are feeling, particularly physically
A friend of mine just walked behind me just to get to the front of the stage during a concert. People were bouncing off me anyway. Does that count?- Knows how to make people feel better, or feel different (good) things. This can be directly physical, but also indirectly. For example, he figured out that people crowding me makes me uncomfortable (sensory overload, though I'm not sure if he's figured that part out - I'm not sure that occurs to him...). So when there's a crowd he's started "making me a bubble" using his own body as a shield, plus sort of using body cues to move me out of someone's way or into a more open spot.
Never thought about that but as long one stays in shape, not counting relationships burned, it can work.- Appears to naturally think that physically feeling better will lead to emotionally feeling better.
Never cooked anything.- Is a good chef, but hasn't ever used a recipe; cooks "by ear" (or by taste? dunno what to call it).
Not really.- Likes dancing
You mean wearing a skirt by a man is part of gender roles?- Recognizes male-female roles and doesn't seem to have a problem with it, although he's always been respectful of both genders as a whole as far as I can tell. I've never felt less than an equal with him.
I take it men who wear long hair or wigs are feminine. Haha.- Is attracted to femininity - long hair, for example.
Set him on fire.- Apparently our local Saturday market was too "alternative" for him... Sure, there's usually a bunch of normal to weird-quirky people running around, but in my opinion it's pretty tame. It's mostly just cute stuff, like kilted unicyclists playing accordions every so often, at worst. Also, at one point we walked by a place that seemed to attract gothy hipsterish-looking people, and that was "very alternative." He's from Europe (and my impression is that Europeans tend to be more open about a lot of behavior), but it still was too weird for him I guess. I can't help but wonder if me, a sheltered prudish American, is more open to different people than him, a sophisticated experienced European.
I would kill him and set him on fire myself.- Does not drink to get drunk but to "enjoy it." He hasn't been really drunk in a long time, and I get the impression he doesn't want to. He doesn't like smoking at all, or being around smokers, though he's usually externally polite about it and only privately will make faces over it. He told me about the only time he actually didn't mind smoke was in Cuba, where some men had a certain type that he actually enjoyed because it smelled good to him.
No matter what occasion it is vodka and beer for me.- I totally trust him with regard to choosing drinks for me. I'm not a drinker, either, and he has a skill with selecting a drink that fits both the occasion and whatever I happen to be needing at the time.
What is that?- Is essentially a secular humanist, but has openness to "spirituality." It seems he associates spirituality with certain feelings; he doesn't seem adept at understanding or conversing in these things, but he says he's trying to be open, especially recently.
No fucking way, I mean I would just say it straight as long the situations would require it. I do not go on one is this or that behind one's back, I mean, it is visible but to comment on it, again, behind one's back is not really how I roll.- Laughs at people a bit behind their backs, or comments on them. Usually not too cruelly, but more than I do, for sure.



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