Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
Assertiveness/pushiness is actually much more Ne/Si than it is Ni/Se. ESTjs conflict with INFps remember, one is pushy and the other isn't. But it's actually the Te-valuing that is the pushiness like that.
I'll disagree with you here that it's the N/S functions that have anything to do with assertiveness/pushiness. Correlating T-F and N-S scales with Big 5 model model it is the T-F scale that has moderate correlation to Agreeableness while N-S shows practically no correlation where Agreeableness is defined as "a tendency to be compassionate and cooperative rather than suspicious and antagonistic towards others". People who score low on this measure are more likely to get into confrontations with others. So if anything the ESTj in your example is more confrontational than the INFp because ESTj is leading with T while for INFp F takes priority over T. Extending this over to our own Beta quadra SLEs are not aggressive because they are Se but because they are Se-Ti.

Quote Originally Posted by yellow82 View Post
The "food collaboration" is a big indicator of him being an ESXj IMO. . . I've only known ESFj and ESTj men that were in charge of such events. Being that we do tend to be some of the more practical types.
I've known some types who did not value Si and had 'weak' Se yet who would concern with resource management and allocation (ex: making sure there is enough food for the party) and would have this sort of practical vibe to them. This could point towards him being sp/x or x/sp with instinctual stackings.