He sounds like an ESTj or ESFj to me. . .

The practical aspect would appear to make him S, while his authoritative "do this" position over others would appear to make him an extrovert. . .

The "food collaboration" is a big indicator of him being an ESXj IMO. . . I've only known ESFj and ESTj men that were in charge of such events. Being that we do tend to be some of the more practical types.

Also, the fact that he picks up on others behaviors and compares them to his past experiences and what he has read makes it appear that ESXj is likely. . .

The question I would ask at this point is is he more emotional then rational? Or is he more rational then emotional? And because he is a man, it may take time to figure that one out. . .