Functional Breakdown-- Benefit
Benefactor
NOTE: Because this relation is asymmetric, meaning the interactions described work one way only (as opposed to being equal between partners), I illustrate this difference by heading each section with “[Function] to [Function],” rather than “[Function] and [Function]” as worded earlier in the symmetric relation descriptions. Also note, the Benefactor’s function is listed first, while yours (the Beneficiary’s) is listed second in each section heading.
Base to Demonstrative Interaction
What your Benefactor takes seriously and exercises often as related to his Base function, you are more inclined to mock and belittle, though you will probably not do so in his presence. At the same time, with prolonged contact you will likely find yourself responding to your Benefactor’s Base manifestations by joining in rather uncharacteristically, and as long as you are alone together, you will probably not even feel embarrassed by it as you normally would. Your Benefactor will find such interaction gratifying and fulfilling, while you will more likely view it as an amusing exercise and a good way to nurture a closer bond with your Benefactor.
Creative to Suggestive/Dual-Seeking Interaction
What you most need psychologically in support of your Base, but struggle to provide for yourself, is something that your Benefactor is well-equipped to provide. And he will gladly do so, at least at first.
Over time, however, your Benefactor may notice that you rarely—in ever—manage to provide for yourself in this area, as his Creative function is your Dual-Seeking function. Since the Creative function is not the primary focus of one’s psyche, your Activator may eventually tire of always providing for you in this area and start expecting you to “take up the slack” once in a while so he can focus on other things. You will struggle with this expectation, however, since it hardly comes naturally.
[u]Role to Mobilizing/Hidden Agenda Interaction[/i]
When a situation arises in which your Benefactor begins to feel pressure on his Role, you may be quite eager to take up the challenge for him, as his Role is your Hidden Agenda. Your Benefactor will find you quite useful in this area at times, though you will eventually tire of the exercise.
Vulnerable/PoLR to Ignoring/Observing Interaction
As your Benefactor’s weakest unvalued function, his Vulnerable function is hardly an area in which he feels inclined to dwell. With you, he is in luck, this being your Ignoring function which you are naturally inclined to disregard in favor of your Base.
When your Benefactor does start to feel pressure from external forces upon his Vulnerable psyche, you have the ability to help him see things less seriously, to help convince him that what “those people” are asking is really not important and “to heck with them and their expectations.”
Suggestive/Dual-Seeking to Vulnerable/PoLR Interaction
You and your Benefactor share the same weakness in your Vulnerable and his Suggestive functions. However, the weakness that you find most awkward and fearful to face, your Benefactor actually seeks help in and gladly welcomes in support of his Base. Therefore, he is likely to approach you at times seeking help in this area, which you of course will be unable to give. You may even be visibly put off by the request and will try to shrug your Benefactor away with a “Go ask someone else.”
Mobilizing/Hidden Agenda to Base Interaction
Your Base strength and focus naturally excites your Benefactor and can serve to stimulate him into action regarding his Hidden Agenda. He will thoroughly enjoy this interaction with you, until—over a long period of time—he begins to tire of the exercise. As long as you recognize and respect his need for a break, there is no problem; but if you continue to pursue the interaction incessantly, some irritation from your weary Benefactor may arise.
Ignoring/Observing to Creative Interaction
Interaction between your Creative function and your Benefactor’s Ignoring function will for the most part be regarded between you as simply unimportant to the relationship in general. Your Creative pursuits, while important to you, are not a primary focus. So when you are busy expressing yourself Creatively, your Benefactor is likely to simply “sit back” or wander elsewhere (physically or mentally) as he waits for the moment to pass.
Demonstrative to Role Interaction
Despite being unvalued, you will likely find yourself occasionally appreciating your Benefactor’s Demonstrative nature when it manifests, as in these moments you realize the benefit of not having to engage personally in your Role, particularly in external situations dealing with other people. The one exception being, of course, if his Demonstration is directed against you, which is probably rare, since you are unlikely to be pushing his buttons in this area.
Your Benefactor will not appreciate demands upon his Demonstrative function, however. Most of the time he will not even care to acknowledge his ability, and may grow annoyed when pressed. Rather, your Benefactor’s Demonstration is best regarded as a gift, manifesting spontaneously only during those times when it is most needed as the need is perceived by your Benefactor.
And thank you
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Originally Posted by pianosinger
