
Originally Posted by
The Ineffable
I observed this happening in Aristocratic quadras. They focus very much on palpable things, like wordly stuff, accomplishments, behavior, ideals, philosophy, etc. Concrete stuff, they don't look at people so relativistically like Democratics, as some templates (or how to name this?). I know Aristocratic Dual couples who broke-up, especially about two of them I was very concerned for being close relatives and caring about them (an IEI friend and my SLI ex). My brother (SLI) also hated my IEE ex for different reasons, all moral.
Discussing with my little circle of Socionics enthusiasts we concluded that these types focus way too much on "real life" evaluations, we could pinpoint the reasons for dislike precisely - which have nothing to do with their type. Their ethical/aesthetical/practical values are very strong and to them the fact that they're "psychologically compatible" means close to nothing (when they are told about it) when they hit the "real" issues. Like you say, Scarlett, knowing Socionics you can identify with your enemies, then you observe these causes for conflict are unrelated to sociotype compatibility.
Also note that Democratics can't so clearly distinguish these notions of "friend" and "enemy", so we can't speak in the same manner about attraction/repulsion inside all the quadras. Democratics interactions are based on interest, rather than values. I know someone said once (Schulman?) that things like age, religion, etc don't matter in compatible relationships, but I disagree, they do matter and Aristocratics put an emphasis on them.
So on short, what happens to you is normal, IMO.