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    Default Typing someone who is annoying me

    I am in a church group for young people and there is one person (let's call him B) that I find really annoying.

    B is a 22 years old male. B was born in China and moved to Canada at a rather young age (probably before he turned 7 years old).

    B insults people in his jokes: one of his friend (Most likely ESFj.. less likely ESFp) took a long time in calculating restaurant tips because he took a while to use his new phone's calculator. B then started saying that the person calculating the tip "should go back to school and take some math" to everyone around him. He repeated it about 15 times without people responding to him. B does make it sound like an assertive statement and that he isn't frowning.

    B is loud when talking.

    Incident 1

    B is pushy: When I missed two weeks of that church group, he say to me: "you should come every week" in a commanding tone but he's also smiling. I find it very confusing and also frustrating to hear this because it puts guilt in me.

    Incident 2

    He is possibly manipulative. He wanted to buy my NDS lite. He says "I'll buy it for 45, that's the price right now." I am suspecting that's not the correct price and that he's low balling. He make it sound very sure.

    Incident 3

    I was driving, and he was sitting in the car. At one point, I wasn't sure where I was going because someone suggested a business's name without telling me where it is. He said in a very sure tone while I was driving giving me direction: "Take a left here and to go on this side street. Then u-turn back on the major street. Take the road here and then you'll hit X street and it'll take you there." While I was executing the u-turn menuavor, I asked where is the location. When I understood the location I got pretty pissed because:
    1) it's a route that has more traffic light.
    2) It's a route that is further away.
    3) I know there is a better route. - I hate people who pretend they know something when they don't
    4) He sounds like he is so sure in his tone of voice and I felt I was fooled.

    It took a few seconds for me to reassees and orientate myself and then go on my own route.

    It was pretty obvious that I was pissed at him. He then started addressing me with Chinese honorific for an elder male friend. He has never done that before. I am also older than him.

    I am hoping people can help shed light on what type this person is or whatever it is simply not type related. Pretty sure he's a T type. Perhaps it is just poor social skill? I'll also take tactics on dealing with him. I know I need to be more assertive..

    Thank you so much.
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    Definitely user Maritsa on here and I'm not joking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Absurd View Post
    Definitely user Maritsa on here and I'm not joking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jinxi View Post
    Yup, annoying part fits, rest fits as well.

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    Sounds like you have an ESTj on your hands. Enjoy.

    /joking

    FTR, 3 does sounds like devalued (PoLR?) Se/Ni. Won't get to the point, just get into explaining by giving away a bit of info at the time, to make you follow their way, and taking the longest route possible - in this case literally, but I mean mostly metaphorically.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jinxi View Post
    You're around here for a few days, yet you behave like you'd be there even before the forum started, being categorical in judgements and disdainful in discussions. Why is that? What's your problem?
    „Man can do what he wants but he cannot want what he wants.“
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    B is not my dual.

    You two are differing values; someone is Fe and the other one is Fi; this is best expressed in the emotional affect that he produces when saying something to you and your reaction to their "guilt" tripping.
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    Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
    Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
    Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Sounds like a Te-ego to me. I've heard Ti-egos say things in very assertive tone of voice as a way of persuading others to do their bidding, but it sounds to me like he is extraverting his logic onto other people rather than using personal logic.

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    All the examples you mentioned involve him using to disparage people. I would guess LIE.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MegaDoomer View Post
    You're around here for a few days, yet you behave like you'd be there even before the forum started, being categorical in judgements and disdainful in discussions. Why is that? What's your problem?
    Yes very interesting, I actually have been looking at this recently and wondering....

    It makes me have a suspicion that the person either

    1) Has some kind of thing with joining in on bashing some individual to become accepted, finding some communal scapegoat to build a comradere amongst others

    2) Could be a previous member signed in under a different name who has followed the history

    3) Has an instinctive desire to bash or pick on people, and has joined this forum after recently seeing an opportunity to do so

    I don't really know, but its hard to imagine over the course of less than a month developing a strong enough annoyance of maritsa, other members have had this burning on the backburner for some time.

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    Who cares? It's maritsa. It's like harming a goldfish; It won't notice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HaveLucidDreamz View Post
    1) Has some kind of thing with joining in on bashing some individual to become accepted, finding some communal scapegoat to build a comradere amongst others
    That's pretty likely, yeah. However, he's not only insulting Maritsa, but also several other people on here. I think he has an extremely low self-esteem and therefore needs to degrade others in such a way in order to feel better. You could compare it with a bully in school. Well, it's probably even more pathetic because he's using a computer to do it.

    Quote Originally Posted by HaveLucidDreamz View Post
    2) Could be a previous member signed in under a different name who has followed the history
    It's possible, but I think it's not the case here. The trolling did not begin with the first thread iirc, maybe he was mad because Maritsa and Numbers requested such odd pics and information (which he provided btw).

    Quote Originally Posted by HaveLucidDreamz View Post
    3) Has an instinctive desire to bash or pick on people, and has joined this forum after recently seeing an opportunity to do so
    I think it's this combined with 1). He could have been lurking for a while, who knows?

    Quote Originally Posted by HaveLucidDreamz View Post
    I don't really know, but its hard to imagine over the course of less than a month developing a strong enough annoyance of maritsa, other members have had this burning on the backburner for some time.
    Yes, it is simply impossible. As I said, it seems like he knows everyone for years because he tries very hard to be part of the "we hate on Maritsa" group.
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    none of those incidents sound that bad. I dont think I can type him based on what you said here. But Te is a good guess.

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