The Language of Love (1, not 5)

[CILi]

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[Galen]

Not sure how socionics-related this is, but it's really interesting. When was this study done?

[Timeless]

Well, shit.

I threw all my IM conversations into the fire pit. It would have been interesting to see how it came out though.

[Jenna]

between boyfriend (SLI) and i:
0.68 - when we're getting along
0.79 - when fighting (..? i don't understand why this one is bigger when we're fighting)

between an acquaintance (SLE - i babysit for her) and i
0.71 (our texting history is kind of boring. but we get along much better face to face)

between best friend (SEE) and i
0.94 - when we're getting along
0.87 - when fighting

[chip]

blew my mind! that is terribly interesting. My last girlfriend and I had a hard time breaking up because we could communicate with each other so well. Synchrony of speech exactly! Needless to say I want her back. as billy shakespere once said: "absence makes the heart grow fonder".

[redbaron]

that's too much work (damn I am lazy). but I agree with this premise and have noticed it in my interpersonal relations. I might not have noticed it as such prior to my knowledge of socionics. I would have noticed that I clicked better with this or that person or that I could understand someone really easily but I wouldn't have realized why.

[tcaudilllg]

Just imagine how much better the research would be if it DID consider the existing IM semantics literature.

[DirectorAbbie]

An EII E6 friend: 0.86

(facebook chat)

[Slacker]

I wish I could find an email from my husband longer than 7 words.

[Suz]

that's too much work (damn I am lazy). but I agree with this premise and have noticed it in my interpersonal relations. I might not have noticed it as such prior to my knowledge of socionics. I would have noticed that I clicked better with this or that person or that I could understand someone really easily but I wouldn't have realized why.

I agree.

I feel like with duals you communicate the same way but in different modalities. Like, the dual says what you were thinking, or you write what the dual was thinking, etc. But the writing styles might be somewhat different (as demonstrated by the SLI concise writing vs IEE long-windedness). So the score might not necessarily reflect the degree to which two people understand each other.

[Creepy-male]

I agree.

I feel like with duals you communicate the same way but in different modalities. Like, the dual says what you were thinking, or you write what the dual was thinking, etc. But the writing styles might be somewhat different (as demonstrated by the SLI concise writing vs IEE long-windedness). So the score might not necessarily reflect the degree to which two people understand each other.

I think the thing is...

This measures compatibility of speech. Duals may have different speaking styles, but say in the case of really good friends it's quite easy to read between the lines and translate what the other person is saying into you-speak.

I've often been in situations with my best friend where one of us has been "but what I meant was <blah blah>" and it's like "Yup, I got that at the time "

Of course, one's competence with a skill (such as speaking another person's "language") is typically proportional to the time spent using it...

[pianosinger]

I am in shock and utter disbelief...I came out a 0.9 with BulletsandDoves...

It can't be...