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    seems like i have a million of these. things i have to do but don´t want to do. for example, like spend 1500 coming to costa rica for my brother´s wedding. my brother who i get maybe a yearly email from, or maybe see once a year. bah.

    i was thinking about how i have to spend my time and it´s almost 95 percent have to. probably common for my age where you have maximum responsibility. it´s a tough stage for sure.

    but anyway, i was thinking it is Se role related. don´t wanna but you have to. thoughts?

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    You don't HAVE to do anything, it's just highly recommended.

    Could be Fi related, are you going to your brothers wedding due to your desire to maintain the personal relationship with him?

    My understanding of Se, is the ability to recgnize social alignment of the forces at any situation, as well as manipulate them to one's will.

    Fi, as i understand it, is the element responsible for social obligation, as it is all to do with the maintenance of relations.
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    i know, but essentially the same thing. the key is acceptance.

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    *gone*
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    welll, ok

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    sorry lol. I said that too harsh. I meant it in a good way, but it came out as dickishness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Isotope View Post
    You don't HAVE to do anything, it's just highly recommended.

    could be Fi related, are you going to your brothers wedding due to your desire to maintain the personal relationship with him?

    My understanding of Se, is the ability to recgnize social alignment of the forces at any situation, as well as manipulate them to one"s will.

    Fi, as i understand it, is the element responsible for social obligation, as it is all to do with the maintenance of relations.
    i think your edited post here is ringing true. to my view, there is not much of a relationship here, so my logical mind doesn´t want to give anything. even though i´m giving by being here i expect there will be no return on this investment.

    i am going so because i want to avoid the consequences associated with not going. going is only a slightly better option, a slim margin for sure. my mother pressured me unbelievably. i don´t expect there will be much relationship despite my investment. and, dealing with my family for 4 days is tortureous. it took a lot to get here, i don´t really have the money, and i´m stressed out. and it´s expected to rain the entire time.

    my mother talked about me already....about how my daughter has problems reading, and how i have an attitude.

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    edited post
    I am sorry about the late edit, but I one of these people who develop thoughts after the fact.
    It's very annoying
    The mode of goodness conditions one to happiness, passion conditions him to the fruits of action, and ignorance to madness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blaze View Post
    i think your edited post here is ringing true. to my view, there is not much of a relationship here, so my logical mind doesn´t want to give anything. even though i´m giving by being here i expect there will be no return on this investment.

    i am going so because i want to avoid the consequences associated with not going. going is only a slightly better option, a slim margin for sure. my mother pressured me unbelievably. i don´t expect there will be much relationship despite my investment. and, dealing with my family for 4 days is tortureous. it took a lot to get here, i don´t really have the money, and i´m stressed out. and it´s expected to rain the entire time.

    my mother talked about me already....about how my daughter has problems reading, and how i have an attitude.

    ehh that sucks. I think that I would just blow off the family then besides what I had to do, and enjoy the hotel room and rain and being away from home. did you bring the kids? maybe take them out without the rest of your family to explore the hotel. hotels can be magical places to explore if you let yourself have fun with it.

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    bleh sorry blaze.
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    I've actually thought that 'have to's were Te related. Having to do something in order to get some result. I think strong Te is more aware of what has to be done and what doesn't.

    Quote Originally Posted by Isotope View Post
    You don't HAVE to do anything, it's just highly recommended.
    This is an important point though. "Have to"s are contigent upon what result you want.
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