Quote Originally Posted by hatesyardwork View Post
Excellent post, really. Hit's the Ni/Se attraction perfectly. "Give her attention and then give her space.".............. "Why is he giving me space after getting my attention?" A little push describes it well. A nudge here and a nudge there, and then do nothing to get a reaction. It works, they will come if you interest them and don't crowd them. It's building, sustaining and peaking interest in both types, because it's all in your head........and the Ni is also protecting himself from rejection (sensitive) and getting an ego boost from the attraction which is building in him because he feels wanted and desired by the forceful Se. The Se attraction is building if there is any substance to the romance style of wanting someone worthy. Aggressor/Victim in a nutshell.
Yes the other really cool thing is that once the friendship takes off there's a very pleasant feeling between the two. Not all duals and activity partners but for me it feels like a buzzing feeling. If the girl (or guy) is in touch with how they feel about people, it should take off nicely. (It's the latter stages that have problems ouch lol). Granted the maturity level should be somewhat matched. And if it doesn't work out, cut your losses. I view it as a positive thing. Basically the best way imo to not waste a bunch of unnecessary time in a relationship where two people aren't compatible mentally and emotionally is to let the relationship die when the other party starts acting like a child. You're gonna get that with some gamma sf's, a few examples come to mind.