Quote Originally Posted by SisOfNight View Post
Previously, I've dreamt about a handsome male SEE stalking me, haha. Your description reminded me of that dream.
I was at some mall with a female friend, and she kept looking over and pointing at that handsome guy on the other side of the room, who kept staring at me constantly. Usually, I either get annoyed or creeped out by some random guy staring at me, but because this one was somewhat familiar to me and exhibited an "Aggressor" vibe, I actually experienced delight in his attention. Like you said, the Ni type gets an interesting ego boost from feeling desired by a forceful Se type. I've also enjoyed seeing him missing the elevator I was in at some point; it was one made out of glass, so I could see him standing there, looking both frustrated and invigorated, because me getting away gave him a challenge. He kept showing up at each elevator stop, missing me by just a second each time, chasing me that way, haha. His pursuit gave me some kind of deeper enjoyment, without it being selfish; because I was expecting him to catch up eventually, I was looking forward to that. Though as long as that game kept going on, it was exciting to me.
Not selfish, it's all you can do and all you can be. It is what turns you on. We are not Se ego's, we think too much, and love to do so. Dragging the shit out, I love it and I know how frustrating it is for duals, but lack of patience shows weakness, or insincerity. I can't say it's manipulative, because for me it's reflexive, I can't be any other way. They often give up but I can't really NOT be passive and restrained, it feels natural and turns me on, and turns them on I have found. Often it plays out to an outright confrontation where essentially they throw themselves at me. She and I played it to the hilt and it's time to dual. They can't wait anymore, and you can't hold out anymore. This is the most satisfying thing ever.......when you see YOUR foresight realized with someone because you now feel safe allowing yourself be vulnerable because they put the work in and the sincerity is certain...... it's time to reward them with the only thing my autonomy values, and that is myself.