Quote Originally Posted by hatesyardwork View Post
Excellent post, really. Hit's the Ni/Se attraction perfectly. "Give her attention and then give her space.".............. "Why is he giving me space after getting my attention?" A little push describes it well. A nudge here and a nudge there, and then do nothing to get a reaction. It works, they will come if you interest them and don't crowd them. It's building, sustaining and peaking interest in both types, because it's all in your head........and the Ni is also protecting himself from rejection (sensitive) and getting an ego boost from the attraction which is building in him because he feels wanted and desired by the forceful Se. The Se attraction is building if there is any substance to the romance style of wanting someone worthy. Aggressor/Victim in a nutshell.
I'm... gonna have to agree with this. The Ni victim wants above all to feel like they're wanted by someone. That someone actually noticed them and desired them for who and what they are, that someone saw them as worth the effort. Pity things like traditional gender roles and social expectations get in the way of that for many people...