Quote Originally Posted by carrina View Post
Omg this is why i love the ni's so much. But it's even more subtle than this. They are more suggestive and avoid being directive. I don't know if that's because they're afraid to tell people what to do, because they think it's rude, or what. But it is rather nice. It gives us se types a feeling of autonomy and control over ourselves. It's like "hey here are your choices and this is what each will bring" and the se types do it (hopefully it benefits all ni's too if they're smart enough ). I know this thread is probably long dead but it's in the quick links so just a suggestion: sometimes the se types very distracted so you can feel free to give a little push sometimes. They might not like it but it'll get their attention.
To answer another question about attracting them: if you spot them, like Marissa said, their eyes dart around because they're quick thinkers (disorganized). And confidence will get their attention but don't be aggressive. There are many cases when i put a guy on mental ignore because they've been too dominant with me. It's disturbing to say the least.
Excellent post, really. Hit's the Ni/Se attraction perfectly. "Give her attention and then give her space.".............. "Why is he giving me space after getting my attention?" A little push describes it well. A nudge here and a nudge there, and then do nothing to get a reaction. It works, they will come if you interest them and don't crowd them. It's building, sustaining and peaking interest in both types, because it's all in your head........and the Ni is also protecting himself from rejection (sensitive) and getting an ego boost from the attraction which is building in him because he feels wanted and desired by the forceful Se. The Se attraction is building if there is any substance to the romance style of wanting someone worthy. Aggressor/Victim in a nutshell.