Quote Originally Posted by Azeroffs View Post
I have the idea that Ni types tend to set things up for people to come to them. Essentially they do everything without ever actually doing anything if that makes any sense. A good analogy would be that they set up the dominoes for Se types to knock down. Ni types secretly take control over situations without ever letting you know, and they're sneaky and a bit manipulative in that way. Maybe that's more the case for ENxjs who take a more active approach. They say and do the right things to make it seem like it was your decision when in reality it was them pulling your strings. I think it's more innocent than I made it sound, though. Ni-types just have strong insights into how what they do will affect the way things go, and they know the subtle buttons to push.
Omg this is why i love the ni's so much. But it's even more subtle than this. They are more suggestive and avoid being directive. I don't know if that's because they're afraid to tell people what to do, because they think it's rude, or what. But it is rather nice. It gives us se types a feeling of autonomy and control over ourselves. It's like "hey here are your choices and this is what each will bring" and the se types do it (hopefully it benefits all ni's too if they're smart enough ). I know this thread is probably long dead but it's in the quick links so just a suggestion: sometimes the se types very distracted so you can feel free to give a little push sometimes. They might not like it but it'll get their attention.
To answer another question about attracting them: if you spot them, like Marissa said, their eyes dart around because they're quick thinkers (disorganized). And confidence will get their attention but don't be aggressive. There are many cases when i put a guy on mental ignore because they've been too dominant with me. It's disturbing to say the least.