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I'm attracted to my conflictors, but it's their personality that draws me in. It's definitely not a sex thing ... or is it? Hmmm.
(I don't know anything anymore, don't listen to me. I may not even have a Socionics type of my own. Maybe I just float around like a nontypable unstructured entity.)
LSI: “I still can’t figure out Pinterest.”
Me: “It’s just, like, idea boards.”
LSI: “I don’t have ideas.”
It makes me wonder if i'm mistyping people, then I think fuck it stop analysing and just go with it.
For instance, for myself, say for instance I meet a girl and I really like her, maybe my mind will start thinking about stuff we can do in the future, holidays, nights in, out.... but it's just the start and plenty of time to get to know each other if it's going to work. For myself I kinda see taking analysing their type too seriously, it could still turn out that socionics kinda works and the person turns out to be my dual, but they can still piss me off for non-socionic reasons.
I've also found that 'instinctual connection' occurs when i've got similar hobbies and in the early finding person attractive stage, hormones and shit more potent than the mind.
LOL; I'm reading your post. It was the same for me in the past but the more interactions I have with my duals the more my conflictor interactions don't please me. Like today I met my friend and her SLE husband for a beer and for a moment he suspected that the cheap bottle on their bookstore was not broken by his cats (I was baby sitting for his cats while they were out of town and found a blue bottle broken on the floor when I went in to feed them). These instances or moments that he's looking for a "reaction" or Fe that assures him that I did not do it come across to me like he doesn't trust me and have faith in what I'm telling him is the truth. I can't produce Fe for him so instead his response, like saying "It's not like our cats to jump up on the book shelf and break something" came off WRONG to me because it hit my Se polr -Him trying to read me and my motives. ARGH. My dual wouldn't give a rats ass about some cheap ass blue bottle that anyone would have broken and would have instead been concerned about someone getting hurt. Anyway, just a small situation of how Fi and Fe work differently and how that particular response can sneak into my feelings and hurt me on the inside to the point where I will hold onto his response for a long long time, later on bringing it up and causing conflict; hence, conflicting relationship.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
My experience is that it doesn't happen much. Most of the time you pick up an acute sense of unease from the person.
yeah, ime too.
i think you can be physically attracted to any type just based on looks or whatever, but type comes across in physical demeanor/presence also, which is a part of physical attraction. any attraction i've had to my conflictor has been more along the lines of, "they seem interesting...," along with the general sense of wariness. but then i'm generally attracted to people i feel safe and comfortable around so i guess if the feelings of unease and wariness are titillating to you (heh) then it might be more likely.
anyway i think i'm making this more specific than it actually is...anybody can be attracted to anybody, really. lol.
To the OP: Never.
I'm thinking that it might have something to do with another another dimension of compatibility, maybe enneagram. In my case, the only thing so far that does make me a little uneasy is the almost constant joking around that involves name calling. Other than that, I'm not that uneasy about the power struggle and testing of it at times. In that sense I like to fight back and not just get stepped over, also try to gain a position of control, so that's one thing that sounded familiar from E8 and E6 relationship descriptions I've read. All I know is SO FAR it was actually a lot of attraction, but now the SLE is not talking to me for some reason, lol.