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    I just got my performance review recently:

    my positives: self-confident, excellent sales, operational, follow through
    negatives: can come off blunt, needs to work on building more rapport with subordinates, sense of humor not understood by all which can be offensive

    I imagine F's wouldn't have this problem?

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    Quote Originally Posted by gobearcats View Post
    negatives: can come off blunt, needs to work on building more rapport with subordinates, sense of humor not understood by all which can be offensive
    What's wrong with being blunt?
    Respect your workmates, you don't have to marry them
    If they don't understand your humor, are u sure it is your fault?
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    Quote Originally Posted by 1981slater View Post
    What's wrong with being blunt?
    Respect your workmates, you don't have to marry them
    If they don't understand your humor, are u sure it is your fault?
    I suppose any performance review has to contain a negative element, lest letting it be known that the reviewed worker is not easily replaceable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I suppose any performance review has to contain a negative element, lest letting it be known that the reviewed worker is not easily replaceable.
    who the fuck does performance reviews. if they try and pull that shit on you just walk out the door ...

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    They're just being blunt. You'll get fired if you walk out unless you manage to strike as a whole.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jughead View Post
    They're just being blunt. You'll get fired if you walk out unless you manage to strike as a whole.
    work somewhere else then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mercutio View Post
    who the fuck does performance reviews. if they try and pull that shit on you just walk out the door ...
    I don't know, they don't do them here unless you're "being watched" for a promotion & you work in an extremely big company. But I suppose they must be common in the US and UK.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    I suppose any performance review has to contain a negative element, lest letting it be known that the reviewed worker is not easily replaceable.
    A difficult balance!

    And only when somebody receives a negative review (s)he can grow.
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    Be blunt! Be blunt ! Be blunt!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by gobearcats View Post
    I just got my performance review recently:

    my positives: self-confident, excellent sales, operational, follow through
    negatives: can come off blunt, needs to work on building more rapport with subordinates, sense of humor not understood by all which can be offensive

    I imagine F's wouldn't have this problem?
    just tell them to go fuck themselves. performance reviews are for sheep.

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    Well gobearcats, aren't you just the cutest little str8 man with no soul.

    *squeezes your stereotypical cheeks*

    Well, I played with dolls as a boy so I guess I can't talk.

    haha you like sports. SPORTS! (zzzzzz)

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    lol personally I enjoy bluntness, directness and insensitivity. but that's just me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    lol personally I enjoy bluntness, directness and insensitivity. but that's just me.
    It's naturally how I get things done, but apparently it's a problem in the workplace

    Sensitive people ruin all the fun

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    Quote Originally Posted by gobearcats View Post
    Sensitive people ruin all the fun
    yup.
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    Well, generally it's a "problem" of every ExTx type.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Well, generally it's a "problem" of every ExTx type.
    That accords with my experience, but why is it an ExTx problem?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashton View Post
    Lol. Add in something about insubordination and it'd sound about like my last performance review. I have a difficult time hiding my level of (or lack of, rather) respect for certain people. :/
    I've been accused of insubordination. I sat by the door to my next class and read during lunch. The vice principal told me to go outside. I don't listen to people I don't respect, and I don't respect narrow-minded sports advocates.

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