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    There is usually strong mutual attraction between myself and EIEs from the get go.

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    I am not sure if it is either/or so much as it is a product of circumstance. Duals can sometimes go through long periods in which they do not realize, or rather capitalize, on their mutual compatibility. Sometimes it can be so natural that it is ignored or go about unnoticed by the duals. Where one or both of the duals are deemed physically attractive, then the attraction may be picked up quicker. The (more) attractive dual may only begin to find the other partner increasingly more attractive through long-term exposure and growing cognizance of it. And some may just be naturally slow at recognizing their feelings towards a person. Though if the dual is already dating someone, then the compatibility may be ignored or disregarded. So again, I think it is primarily subject to circumstance than anything else.
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    Yeah, I agree with Logos. The mutual attraction I've experienced is probably more due to SEXUAL DESIRE than duality.

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    Why did you put sexual desire in pink, dj?

    And lest this post be too off-topic, I think I tend to find SLE women attractive, and the attraction is enhanced by those aspects of personality that are generally recognized as part of SLE behavior. Whether that's natural or due to my own confirmation bias remains unseen.
    Not a rule, just a trend.

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    Because pink is a manly color.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Logos View Post
    I am not sure if it is either/or so much as it is a product of circumstance. Duals can sometimes go through long periods in which they do not realize, or rather capitalize, on their mutual compatibility. Sometimes it can be so natural that it is ignored or go about unnoticed by the duals. Where one or both of the duals are deemed physically attractive, then the attraction may be picked up quicker. The (more) attractive dual may only begin to find the other partner increasingly more attractive through long-term exposure and growing cognizance of it. And some may just be naturally slow at recognizing their feelings towards a person. Though if the dual is already dating someone, then the compatibility may be ignored or disregarded. So again, I think it is primarily subject to circumstance than anything else.
    Excellent response and everything i was going to (more long-windedly) say.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aixelsyd View Post
    Emerging from the dark because something has been on my mind.

    a scenario:

    How common do you think it is to meet a dual, find you two are basically perfect for each other (as far as mental compatibility goes coupled with physical attraction, even if it is only aesthetic/knowing someone looks good and is to your tastes, somewhat) and other people see you as being meant to be together, to find someone attractive, but don't feel romantic and/or sexual attraction until some time later? Like, how things fall into place so easily that the excitement hasn't set in even if there is mutual fascination with each other?

    Anyone ever experience this? Did the more than platonic feelings emerge later? Maybe there is something about things feeling too easy to make feelings happen right away or two people getting each other so well that it takes some outside intervention and difficulties to arouse more passionate feelings.

    Or am I just explaining a new phenomena in its own right?

    This also kind of ties with the idea that duality works even with minimum attraction in 'that' way on socionics.com.

    food for thought, in any case.

    Oh, and any non-serious and off-topic posts, could they be swept to the NSFW/flamming forum if any occur? Thanks.
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    I've never wanted to seriously date; I just sort of wanted to run into the one, like let it happen naturally, but in a big and busy city as LA, sometimes that can't be left to chance. So I had to start doing things in routine. Like hanging out at the same places every day. I guess eventually, one of my duals will notice that I have the same "interest"; I, being naturally curious about my environment, have a tendency to explore and not keep a routine with where I eat and have my coffee every morning, but having changed that to my dual's waive length, I am enjoying seeing more duals.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aixelsyd View Post
    Emerging from the dark because something has been on my mind.

    a scenario:

    How common do you think it is to meet a dual, find you two are basically perfect for each other (as far as mental compatibility goes coupled with physical attraction, even if it is only aesthetic/knowing someone looks good and is to your tastes, somewhat) and other people see you as being meant to be together, to find someone attractive, but don't feel romantic and/or sexual attraction until some time later? Like, how things fall into place so easily that the excitement hasn't set in even if there is mutual fascination with each other?

    Anyone ever experience this? Did the more than platonic feelings emerge later? Maybe there is something about things feeling too easy to make feelings happen right away or two people getting each other so well that it takes some outside intervention and difficulties to arouse more passionate feelings.

    Or am I just explaining a new phenomena in its own right?

    This also kind of ties with the idea that duality works even with minimum attraction in 'that' way on socionics.com.

    food for thought, in any case.

    Oh, and any non-serious and off-topic posts, could they be swept to the NSFW/flamming forum if any occur? Thanks.
    I don't know how common it is to find and easily fit with your dual. Hasn't been common for me personally. Although, there was an EIE at the place I used to work. We got assigned to a project together, and it took no time at all to have a great rapport, and it was a lot of fun working with him. It was not a romantic kind of chemistry, because he was happily married. Instead it was just easy being around him, we got each other, and joked around a lot.

    Understanding a person goes a long way, and for long-term stuff, I'd much rather be around someone who understands me and is easy to be around, than someone who drives me crazy with desire, but fails when it comes to being able to communicate or understand each other. However, if someone just doesn't do anything for you, don't expect them to "grow on you" because regardless of how hideous they look, it's probably more than just their looks that is repelling you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aixelsyd View Post
    Emerging from the dark because something has been on my mind.

    a scenario:

    How common do you think it is to meet a dual, find you two are basically perfect for each other (as far as mental compatibility goes coupled with physical attraction, even if it is only aesthetic/knowing someone looks good and is to your tastes, somewhat) and other people see you as being meant to be together, to find someone attractive, but don't feel romantic and/or sexual attraction until some time later? Like, how things fall into place so easily that the excitement hasn't set in even if there is mutual fascination with each other?

    Anyone ever experience this? Did the more than platonic feelings emerge later? Maybe there is something about things feeling too easy to make feelings happen right away or two people getting each other so well that it takes some outside intervention and difficulties to arouse more passionate feelings.

    Or am I just explaining a new phenomena in its own right?

    This also kind of ties with the idea that duality works even with minimum attraction in 'that' way on socionics.com.

    food for thought, in any case.

    Oh, and any non-serious and off-topic posts, could they be swept to the NSFW/flamming forum if any occur? Thanks.
    i saw my dual as a person first and as a romantic interest second. like after two years of knowing him, although now i can't for the life of me understand how i didn't notice how sexy he is.

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