meh, all I see is one person using this thread to publicly deface a member due to some distorted feeling of competition
meh, all I see is one person using this thread to publicly deface a member due to some distorted feeling of competition
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No. Maritsa is 71.Originally Posted by CILi
I thought you guys were kinda close age-wise.
That's what I said before as well. Nice
Good jobshe was getting out of hand even for her.
wait thats not juice, thats beef!
ILI (FINAL ANSWER)
Hey, you know what? Maritsa got a boyfriend! How can I know that? Because she mentions him in every second post!
I think you're not the only one with a relationship here. Other people just don't feel the need to tell everybody all the time about it.
This whole argument between Maritsa and Minde is totally pointless. Just leave her alone and text your bf or something.
„Man can do what he wants but he cannot want what he wants.“
– Arthur Schopenhauer
I've been known to do that when in a relationship. "I have a girlfriend! My girlfriend does that! Oh, by the way, my girlfriend likes that too!" - and saying things like that excessively and out of the blue seems perfectly normal to me. I don't know this poster at all, and it seems from the above some people question her self-typing, but maybe it's some kind of
thing.
Oh don't worry if you don't know Marista now you soon will, if you've decided on a type prepare to have it aggressively questioned.
That's pretty much what I've been getting at. Thank you for putting it like that. Sometimes you just have to say, "no, that's enough, I can't do anymore." For the sake of everybody involved.I can totally relate to this and my solution has been to set up boundaries. You can't be friends with everyone and you don't have to forgive everyone everything. Ever since I have been making a conscious effort to NOT put everyone else's needs above my own, I am a much happier person. In the end I cannot have fruitful relationships when I waste energy on lost causes.
Even as an EII you are allowed to dislike people, ignore people, and stop searching for a potential for understanding that might just not be there (even among identicals). Humanists and humanitarians can only save the world when they keep themselves emotionally stable and happy.
That's right, and that's the same for my delta NF, sort of mirroring her same development, too.
She still has 'issues' about being selfish and things like that, but, the boundary thing is something we've talked about a lot, and I'd like to think I've helped her better understand that, and better understand when it's 'good' for her to make that decision about not expending any more mental/emotional/social/etc energy.
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
and for what it's worth, to address it...
I'm going to speculate that Maritsa was feeling uncomfortable that another delta ST or god forbid LSE was liking Minde or getting more attention from her (or seeing like "a better EII", or more sane or more rational or something, more favorable). I know Maritsa has varied in her opinions about Minde, but, this seems kind of reminiscent of her previous........... 'catty' behavior?
And yes, I say that knowing full well that she is in a relationship. I still see that dynamice playing out.
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
An instance of appropriate moderation. Thank you.
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
Sorry about the detour. We can ask a mod to split the thread if you like.
An instance of appropriate moderation. Thank you.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
I can write things that would (?) make me feel cared for
Someone being kind, gentle, and understanding
trying his best to make sense of something I say I feel even when at first it doesn't entirely
once in a while - spontaneously doing something he knows I will like (like this one time my friend slid a sticky note under my door when I was feeling sad "do you want to talk?"; things like that make me ecstatic lol bc I wasn't expecting it, thought he was busy)
on that note, someone I know is taking time out especially for me even though he is super busy
that I am "special" (not E4; just special in the way you are to someone super close)
probably Si and comfort stuff, I don't know how to put them into words
knowing me so well he can anticipate what I think, feel, or would say, want as gift. I don't want expensive stuff, but I like craft things ex.
knowing my preferences "like the back of his hand"; less memorization than it is deduction I think from simply knowing me extremely well
which he can again use to surprise me with something new that I don't know but might prob like
letting me be playful and be a little "annoying" in the sense of wanting his connection and attention once in a while, without truly getting annoyed
generally making me feel like he adores me and that I mean everything to him
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