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    RAGE -it's a double edge sword, on one hand it stabilizes, on the other it makes a sudden, unexpected thunder, but I laugh when it happens, because really, it's not that serious.
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
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    Quote Originally Posted by silverchris9 View Post
    I love that dude.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 3RainbowSprinkles View Post
    I feel like i often click well with my duals when meeting them, but I don't often feel a strong chemistry towards them until getting to know them after a while. I find this most strange in comparison with the chemistry I feel with types that are just no good for me.
    yeah this might have something to do with subtypes. chemistry comes from tension or friction with the other person. the high level of compatbility leads to a lack of it at first.
    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    lmaoo

    an accurate analysis if I may say so

    bahahaha
    <Crispy> what subt doesnt understand is that a healthy reaction to "FUCK YOU" is and not

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    They like to flirt with everyone and hit on all the girls.
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    RAGE -it's a double edge sword, on one hand it stabilizes, on the other it makes a sudden, unexpected thunder, but I laugh when it happens, because really, it's not that serious.
    Really? I want to kill ESTjs that go on a rage towards me. It's probably the most maddening thing in the world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Parkster View Post
    I love that dude.
    Yeah, he's pretty awesome.
    Not a rule, just a trend.

    IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Really? I want to kill ESTjs that go on a rage towards me. It's probably the most maddening thing in the world.
    hehe, what kinds of things do they rage on you about?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lobo View Post
    hehe, what kinds of things do they rage on you about?
    time -
    "HURRY UP!!!!
    god, okay, don't get all crazy now!"
    Last edited by Beautiful sky; 03-26-2010 at 01:34 AM.
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by Parkster View Post
    IEE: Love me like an infantile.
    Me: What?
    IEE: I want you to hump me through those boxers. Gently.
    Me: Get out.
    IEE: I have that pink Calvin Klein thong on.
    Me: I'm not in the mood.
    IEE: I need some coffee.
    Me: Go fix yourself some.
    IEE: The coffee machine is broken.
    Me: Drink something else then.
    IEE: Oh, screw you.
    Me: Screw me? No, screw YOU!
    IEE: Yes! Screw me, please!
    I think I'm IEE based on this description.

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    EIEs - hell

    with the exception of Numbers, of course
    I'm IEE.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jarno View Post
    1)
    A girl who I want to date, asks me: well first tell me how tall you are?
    My reply: well I will answer that, if you first tell me how much you weigh!

    2)
    A girl I was dating said she was oh so great at sex etc, but she didn't do blowjobs.
    My reply: Oh I'm really romantic etc, I just will never take you out to dinner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    time -
    "HURRY UP!!!!
    god, okay, don't get all crazy now!"
    yeah, but it depends on which one. Some aren't as intense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lobo View Post
    hehe, what kinds of things do they rage on you about?
    Usually, executing tasks the way they want (which is always different from the way I want)...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lobo View Post
    Well, I tend to click faster with ISTps. It's more like a sibling/buddy relationship. Duality is something else... It's automatically serious, with no bs.
    Yeah, absolutely no BS between me and you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah, absolutely no BS between me and you.
    lol, ok, I had a few in mind when I said that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah, absolutely no BS between me and you.
    I can feel the buddy thing going on between us
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    They don't seem to have any sense of pacing a relationship, or at least not in a way that matches up w mine [so far].
    Last edited by female; 03-26-2010 at 04:06 PM.

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    ESFjs are too inclusivistic. I want them all to myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by labcoat View Post
    ESFjs are too inclusivistic. I want them all to myself.
    How would you like it if some other INTj got your wish?



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    If the smooching happens outside my scope of vision chances are I will not care.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoapOfSapphire View Post
    They don't seem to have any sense of pacing a relationship, or at least not in a way that matches up w mine [so far].
    IEE chicks are good for everyone. They are the universal blood type of the 16 types.
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    You need to get a chill ESE. I found one of the coolest ones ever, actually. She's smart, works really hard, a good dancer, and is actually seemingly reserved at times. She's Si subtype... but on the same page in terms of planning and actually making things happen. She's cool.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyrano View Post
    IEE chicks are good for everyone. They are the universal blood type of the 16 types.
    Yeah I'm borderline pursuing / going out with an IEE right now. She's smart, same interests, good looking, good values.... good stuff.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WorkaholicsAnon View Post
    I can feel the buddy thing going on between us
    did you mean 'you and him' - lobo and ryu?
    Or, us as in.... lobo/ryu and workaholics?
    Or all three?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah I'm borderline pursuing / going out with an IEE right now. She's smart, same interests, good looking, good values.... good stuff.
    that's cool. I know a married couple w/ an IEE girl/LSE guy and they seem really happy. I dated an LSE for a while and it would have worked except for his issues.

    I almost feel like the functions are more obvious in activity for some reason. It's less obvious in duality (it's like I know it's there but can't put my finger on it).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah I'm borderline pursuing / going out with an IEE right now. She's smart, same interests, good looking, good values.... good stuff.
    Hey! back off! She belongs to SLI!
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    You need to get a chill ESE. I found one of the coolest ones ever, actually. She's smart, works really hard, a good dancer, and is actually seemingly reserved at times. She's Si subtype... but on the same page in terms of planning and actually making things happen. She's cool.
    Sound good. Send her my way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah I'm borderline pursuing / going out with an IEE right now. She's smart, same interests, good looking, good values.... good stuff.
    What?

    @Cyrano
    lol lol lol lol
    I found a beautiful IEE at this place I shop, she is very lovely, would like to meet her?
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by jewels View Post
    that's cool. I know a married couple w/ an IEE girl/LSE guy and they seem really happy. I dated an LSE for a while and it would have worked except for his issues.

    I almost feel like the functions are more obvious in activity for some reason. It's less obvious in duality (it's like I know it's there but can't put my finger on it).
    Yes...what issues?
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyrano View Post
    Hey! back off! She belongs to SLI!
    The only types that are really out of bounds are STs, and NTs to an extent. Delta NFs are top tier women, imo.

    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    What?
    ?
    It makes you uncomfortable that I'd be interested in an IEE?

    @Cyrano
    lol lol lol lol
    I found a beautiful IEE at this place I shop, she is very lovely, would like to meet her?
    maybe i'd like to meet her?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    The only types that are really out of bounds are STs, and NTs to an extent. Delta NFs are top tier women, imo.
    OUCH!

    You know, I'm told that I have the power to convert.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cyrano View Post
    You know, I'm told that I have the power to convert.
    Yeah i've been told that too but probably not in the same way you are thinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah i've been told that too but probably not in the same way you are thinking.
    how or what about IEE are you so easily attracted to?

    I can't even get one LSE to notice me, it's not funny anymore...it's actually very depressing. Maybe, I should learn to act like IEE, that would help.
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
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    [quote=Ryu;629046]You know, I'm told that I have the power to convert. [QUOTE]

    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    Yeah i've been told that too but probably not in the same way you are thinking.
    I did leave off the subject.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    how or what about IEE are you so easily attracted to?

    I can't even get one LSE to notice me, it's not funny anymore...it's actually very depressing. Maybe, I should learn to act like IEE, that would help.
    If you have been paying attention to anything I've been telling you about relationships, it's that it isn't about type.

    I didn't list "WOW HER NE DOMINANCE AND IRRATIONALITY IS SO AMAZING, IT REALLY FLOATS MY BOAT, I WANT TO MARRY HER BECAUSE SHE HAS Ti POLR".

    I said, she is smart, similar interests, physically appealing.
    And that you say "so easily attracted to" is bogus - I'm not easily attracted to anyone -- in the sense that I'd actually want to pursue them. Physical attraction is one thing, but really wanting to do something with somebody, that is much more significant and rare.

    So yeah, maybe you should learn, as I have been saying, that there are things outside of socionics that matter... and I sure hope you don't try to talk to "LSE's" about duality and why they should like you. That will probably turn most people off if you start out talking about things like that, especially how you go about things here on the forum.



    Also, you said you have been getting some attention, just not the kind of atttention you want. (guys just wanting sex). Which again points to me saying there is more to it than duality. . .

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    Sure, it isn't about type in the beginning, but later it might be.

    There's your Ni polr. I can predict the whole thing for you, given the variables and give you the possible and probable outcome, but I won't because I am happy for you and I want you to enjoy it.

    Ask any person in a dual relationship, if they would have it differently, and the likelyhood of that would be no...different with another dual person, but not another combination of type.

    What's the point of taking all this time to value duality if really, in the long run, you are not really considering it for yourself?

    I have been in relationships or on dates with types other then duality and I can say that I want duality. Yes, there was one person I was speaking to who was LSE and not as educated ("smart") as I would have prefered, but the age difference was the deal breaker in my case.
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

    Best description of functions:
    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    If you have been paying attention to anything I've been telling you about relationships, it's that it isn't about type.

    I didn't list "WOW HER NE DOMINANCE AND IRRATIONALITY IS SO AMAZING, IT REALLY FLOATS MY BOAT, I WANT TO MARRY HER BECAUSE SHE HAS Ti POLR".

    I said, she is smart, similar interests, physically appealing.
    And that you say "so easily attracted to" is bogus - I'm not easily attracted to anyone -- in the sense that I'd actually want to pursue them. Physical attraction is one thing, but really wanting to do something with somebody, that is much more significant and rare.

    So yeah, maybe you should learn, as I have been saying, that there are things outside of socionics that matter... and I sure hope you don't try to talk to "LSE's" about duality and why they should like you. That will probably turn most people off if you start out talking about things like that, especially how you go about things here on the forum.



    Also, you said you have been getting some attention, just not the kind of atttention you want. (guys just wanting sex). Which again points to me saying there is more to it than duality. . .
    ooh, quoted for truth. i wish more people would take this stance about socionics, a largely experimental theory.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 07490 View Post
    I think I'm IEE based on this description.



    I'm IEE.
    That's not what your signature says.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SoapOfSapphire View Post
    They don't seem to have any sense of pacing a relationship, or at least not in a way that matches up w mine [so far].
    That's something like asking an IEE to walk you through the steps of fixing a carburator.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VixenDogFox View Post
    As for the chemistry thing: I find this weird/interesting too. I feel a LOT of chemistry with ILE's, but very little with my duals, UNTIL I get to know them better. Then it changes. But I wish the chemistry was higher on the outset for people... I think it would help people find each other more easily.
    Yeah, happens to me too with SLIs. I honestly think that it depends on what you are going for in life... I don't buy into duality being the best necessarily, to me things are relative. With activity I find that there is stimulation which I don't find with duals, for good and bad. Duality is more stable, and feels kind of too easy. I've thought about what would happen if I had to choose between two women who were SLI and LSE, and it really depends on the type of relationship that I would like to have, and my lifestyle. So many good qualities in both, but I wonder if it's better to have a dual to come home to and an activity to party with and have more of a buddy relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maritsa33 View Post
    Sure, it isn't about type in the beginning, but later it might be.

    There's your Ni polr. I can predict the whole thing for you, given the variables and give you the possible and probable outcome, but I won't because I am happy for you and I want you to enjoy it.

    Ask any person in a dual relationship, if they would have it differently, and the likelyhood of that would be no...different with another dual person, but not another combination of type.

    What's the point of taking all this time to value duality if really, in the long run, you are not really considering it for yourself?

    I have been in relationships or on dates with types other then duality and I can say that I want duality. Yes, there was one person I was speaking to who was LSE and not as educated ("smart") as I would have prefered, but the age difference was the deal breaker in my case.
    Maritsa, once you get into more relationships, I think you'll have more significant things) to say. You're talking so much theory that it's rather annoying.

    Go marry one of the LSE losers who just wants to bang you and tell me after 10 years how you feel, being treated like a sex object and nothing more. You gonna have a big smile on your face because socionics says it's duality? I doubt it. You make it sound like finding your dual is some magic pathway to personal growth and becoming relationally enlightened.

    Maybe once you actually get with more people you'll understand why that kind of talk is so foolish.

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