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    I know this ILE on facebook---actually I knew him in college and we've reconnected a bit over facebook. Anyway, he's still single and really desperately in need of an SEI woman. Well, I happen to know this single woman from my church who's just like maybe two years younger than he and I think they might hit it off. Trouble is, he's not very physically attractive--could stand to lose a few pounds, which he's trying to do (but needs an SEI to help him!!) Anyway, he's great. He's got the wackiest ideas and I think they might hit it off. But she seems to have high standards and I don't know how on earth I'd introduce them! She's no runway model herself but she's very healthy and doesn't "need" a man although I do think she'd like to get married someday and she's very open to meeting people. They both live in the area but there's no point of reference except me I suppose.

    So my question is, does anyone have any suggestions for what I could do to fix them up and bring them together in a subtle way? I don't want to turn her off and I think a blind date would be a disaster. But I also think they're duals and might really appreciate each other in the long run. This is just so tricky. Any ideas?
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    Could you throw a dinner party or something? Play charades and make sure they're on the same team? :-p Idk.. Do they have any interests in common?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rubicon View Post
    Could you throw a dinner party or something? Play charades and make sure they're on the same team? :-p Idk.. Do they have any interests in common?
    I think they both enjoy gardening. I know she does. He fools around with these gigantic sunflowers so maybe I could get him to tell her about them.

    A dinner party... I dunno if I'm up for that right now. I'll think about it. Good suggestion though! thanks
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pinocchio View Post
    Is this the same guy in VI? And are you going to do something about it?!
    If I was you, I wouldn't think twice. Connecting LII with ESE might leave with you a bitter taste (I did :|), but when it comes to ILE and SEI, nothing is more easy and without hard feelings. Trust me.
    yeah I'm still trying to figure out how! they live about 25-30 minutes apart with very different circles/lives but I still feel like hmm, it might work. Thing is, she's quite a bit more attractive than he is. So I dunno if she'd go for it. He's a really great guy tho.... heart of GOLD.

    (what happened with the LII/ESE match-up?)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rubicon View Post
    Could you throw a dinner party or something? Play charades and make sure they're on the same team? :-p Idk.. Do they have any interests in common?
    Do something that puts them on the same time. I totally agree. I don't know exactly how you would do it. But you have to force them together, or they may be interested but not be able to interact with eachother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shindaiwa21 View Post
    Do something that puts them on the same time. I totally agree. I don't know exactly how you would do it. But you have to force them together, or they may be interested but not be able to interact with eachother.
    yeah so I'm still pretty sure she's SEI but I'm questioning my typing of him. I just cannot tell. Furthermore, he told me he's not ready to get back into the dating game just yet... he's trying to lose some weight and work on his career balance, etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    So my question is, does anyone have any suggestions for what I could do to fix them up and bring them together in a subtle way? I don't want to turn her off and I think a blind date would be a disaster. But I also think they're duals and might really appreciate each other in the long run. This is just so tricky. Any ideas?
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    step # 1 (step by step, ooh baby, gonna get to you giiirl)

    Set up a dinner so they can meet each other



    step # 2 (the girl is healthy, the boy is fat so she says: "the Force is within you, young Skywalker you are not a Jedi yet. Join a gym NOW")




    step # 3 (the girl admits she wants to bang the ILE: "Obi Wan didn't tell you the Truth, big boy")



    step # 4 (spoiler: Vader embraces the Light side of the Force again)



    step # 5 (love!)



    step #6 (major courtship operations have ended)

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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    I know this ILE on facebook---actually I knew him in college and we've reconnected a bit over facebook. Anyway, he's still single and really desperately in need of an SEI woman. Well, I happen to know this single woman from my church who's just like maybe two years younger than he and I think they might hit it off. Trouble is, he's not very physically attractive--could stand to lose a few pounds, which he's trying to do (but needs an SEI to help him!!) Anyway, he's great. He's got the wackiest ideas and I think they might hit it off. But she seems to have high standards and I don't know how on earth I'd introduce them! She's no runway model herself but she's very healthy and doesn't "need" a man although I do think she'd like to get married someday and she's very open to meeting people. They both live in the area but there's no point of reference except me I suppose.

    So my question is, does anyone have any suggestions for what I could do to fix them up and bring them together in a subtle way? I don't want to turn her off and I think a blind date would be a disaster. But I also think they're duals and might really appreciate each other in the long run. This is just so tricky. Any ideas?
    Orgnize a movie-theme night, where people eat food and watch a movie together. Even better, a movie marathon, e.g. 2 or 3 Pedro Almodovar movies, combined with Spanish food that can be eaten off the table while wathcing these movies.Make sure they can sit comfortably.

    Perhaps even ask the ILE to bring along DVDs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pinocchio View Post
    Only assuming that the ILE will come and if he does, that they spend enough time together, and if they do that the girl likes him, and if she does that he finds that out somehow, and if he does that there's no problem to talk with her about that, and if he does that this array of "ifs" and "thens" does not appear ridiculous .

    IMO this method is too complicated, but it's just me.
    Yeah, you might be right, the average ILE would rather be the chairman of the SPO (Society of Party Organizers), than accept an invitation from it.

    I still think Redbaron should give it a try.
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    Joe and slater, I'm laughing SO HARD at your posts. Fi polr rules!
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    lol funny indeed.

    i would say some kind of group thing, with like more than four people. bowling is always good since everybody looks silly. a lot of people won't bowl though.

    a dinner party could be good but it might not be the thing for you to do right now.....dancing is good but you have to get people to do it. a lot of people like going to see a band or a hockey game or some such. or a play.

    barbecue....could be good!

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