Quote Originally Posted by Sandoval View Post
lol, I like how your name/avatar goes along with your comment.
...*wears a garlic necklace* x_x

My suspicion is that grudge-holding has more to do with childhood traumas (abandonment, betrayal, house instability) and is a type of overreactive defense mechanism, protecting the person from potential harm by retaining distance from those they consider threatening.
And everyone has childhood trauma. Everyone was been abandoned. betrayed. everyone has had instability.

Different people may have different life histories. But no-one has a pure life. And our experiences shape us.

You can bring more or less into the present moment, but whether conscious or unconcious things will change you.