Quote Originally Posted by schrödinger's cat
Another ENFp response:

...more or less what anndelise said, including the meltdown bit. What I find helpful and acceptable is this: if someone listens to me, and validates me by saying stuff like "well, anyone would feel frustrated/sad/angry in such a situation", and perhaps giving a few examples. THAT is OK.

But in general, telling me how I ought to feel, that's a bit like criticizing how I do feel. It implies that my feelings haven't got any actual reason. "Your life is brilliant - you're just such a weak idiot that you can't feel joy right now. FEEL JOY!" *shudder*
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