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    How would you order your communication preference? I'm starting to really not like talking to people on the phone...

    My order is: in person > txt > IM > phone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lobo View Post
    How would you order your communication preference? I'm starting to really not like talking to people on the phone...

    My order is: in person > txt > IM > phone.
    Why are you starting to dislike talking on the phone?

    Phones are convenient. I equate them roughly with Skype, but Skype is a little better thanks to headphone+mic. Texts are also convenient when you don't have much to say. Finally, IMs are a good way to keep in contact with your internet buddies for whom the other means of communication are not available.

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    I might also add that I actually do not have anyone to hang out with in person at the moment

    Hopefully that'll change with meeting peeps through university club activities and the like.
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    IM > phone > text
    As much as I dislike calling people, I text even less often than that.

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    1. In person.
    2. text.
    2. phone.

    I really don't like the phone. Unless it's someone I know super well. In that case I like to rant and tell long stories, etc.

    When making plans, my friends know I often just text. One of my INTj friends overcomplicates plans when it's done over the phone and then I have to call lots of people and wait for them to pick up, or wait to leave a message. So I try to not pick up so she'll text, so she now tells everyone I don't answer my phone lol.
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    In person > IM > phone


    I don't really see texting as a form of communication, or if it is it's just like IM but on an smaller scale. Texting is more 'notification' to me, not conversation.


    Phone is significantly better, however, for business transactions, than IMing or texting. The difference is having an agenda and a clear endpoint. Perhaps I should think as conversations on the phone that way as well, hmm..
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    Oh I didn't know 'in person' was an option

    IM > in person > phone > text
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ryu View Post
    In person > IM > phone


    I don't really see texting as a form of communication, or if it is it's just like IM but on an smaller scale. Texting is more 'notification' to me, not conversation.


    Phone is significantly better, however, for business transactions, than IMing or texting. The difference is having an agenda and a clear endpoint. Perhaps I should think as conversations on the phone that way as well, hmm..
    I feel similar to most of this response.

    Conversation = in person
    Planning a meeting (meeting up with someone, figuring out movie times, etc)= phone, IM
    Notifications = quick phone call, txt/IM
    Chit chat = IM
    Long Distance = IM, phone, email
    Catching Up = IM, email

    I'm kinda sensitive to volume of sounds, talking on the phone often hurts my ears.

    The more real time the conversation is, the more it shows how easily distracted I get, as well as how unfocused I am. When I'm able to edit, I'm a little more coherent...though often write too much..as in pages of stuff.

    I also tend to get much more easily distracted when I'm on the phone. Well, it shows more, that is. IMs and PMs allow me to do multiple things while also having the conversation, so the distractedness doesn't show as much.

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    I communicate better via written communication. There is more time to get my thoughts organized than real-time conversation. My thoughts are a mess, but I never have enough time to properly get them together in forms of communication where an immediate response is expected. It's harder to piece together my thoughts into words with verbal communication.

    I don't really like phonecalls, and never have since a young age.

    Even so, written communication still has it's limits, and I dislike too much texting/DMing. I put off answering texts, especially if a person needs to message me every other second of the day.

    I was googling DMing etiquette and there was one article talking about how someone's DM box is a very personal and intimate form of communication. To keep in mind that it's like the equivalent of going up to someone in a public place and shouting in their face, so to be mindful of that. Or it was something to that affect. It's possible that it's just so easy to cross my boundaries, and that I need more alone time than a normal human being, and that it boils down to that. But that really resonates with me because when I'm in my alone space, it's invasive if someone does it multiple times a day.

    I'll only respond quickly if I connect well with that person. There is also an expectation to get quick responses through this, which is part of the problem with phonecalls and verbal communication in the first place.

    So probably:

    Emailing> Texting/DMing with close friends> In person> Texting/DMing with people who use it to kill boredom>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Phone>Zoom/Skype
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    Phone is last for sure. In person, it depends on who I am with and for how long I am with them. Actually, I did notice on a VC call recently that I spoke a lot better in terms of socionics than when I am rambling through text. I was much better able to understand the other person and assist in a more meaningful way. I guess I was more patient with my thoughts/time in that context. I used to like talking on the phone with a small group of friends as a teen, but since then I mostly dislike it. In person can be good in short bursts and longer when it’s someone I feel truly comfortable with. I do like texting, but I feel like IM/DM is kind of like the phone sometimes and you are trapped, so I prefer group settings online (as opposed to in person where I’m not as big on groups).

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    Not delta. I like in person, followed by phone, followed by IM, followed by text. I like responsiveness and a maximum of information in my conversations.

    Plus I find talking to someone over the phone versus say a text or email accomplishes whatever you're trying to do 10x faster and easier.

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    likely not delta but, text>IM>phone>in person.

    .. but what if I told you I'm IEE?
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    I absolutely despise answering the phone.

    For many years I had panic attacks when the phone would ring. It feels like a sudden unwanted intrusion into my personal space. Very jarring and confronting.

    Even today I usually just let it go to voicemail most of the time.



    I'm very comfortable with texting, although I may deliberately take a long time to respond.

    I don't like the feeling of pressure when I know the other person is sitting on the other side, impatiently waiting for my reply. So I will usually pretend that I'm busy, not answering right away, so that they eventually give up waiting. This gives me time to formulate a response in my own time, under more comfortable conditions.

    Unless ofc I am actually interested in talking to the person, then I will respond immediately lol.




    Also, if I absolutely am forced to call somebody about something important, I can procrastinate for a very long time, over-thinking the small details and trying to figure out exactly what I will say, and how it should be said. It can be quite agonising.

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