My Estj ex recently friended me on Facebook. I accepted his friendship request. He sent me a private message saying that the reason why he treated so poorly was because he didnít want another child and I wanted a family. Although he never firmly said he didnít want another child he kept me on the hook hoping he would say whether this was in the cards for him or not for three years. He was hoping I am a single mom and that be can get back with me. How selfish and self serving and manipulative is this?